This or That? #98

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This or That? #98

This week Bookmark Chronicles would like to know:

What do you think is worse:

A book with water damage or a book with a broken spine?

Oh this a great question, mainly because they are both horrible situations to find yourself in and both can potentially lead quicker into the books becoming more easily damaged.

I would rather a book to have a damaged spine than water damage. It also depends on the water damage, has it ruined the ink? Has it gone all the way through? One of the major problems with water damage is that there can repercussions with the water. You have more of a chance of mould and attracting little insects. Watch out if it doesn’t dry properly.

A damaged spine you can get repaired, while you might be able to do something. Do not get it repaired yourself, take it to a professional. They are not too many places to get them repaired, but they are out there!

This or That?# 50

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This or That? #50

What’s worse:

Lending a book to a friend and having it returned damaged or not returned at all?

Oh this is a good one! I think not having something returned is worse, especially if they just never mention it ever again. It’s just more of an annoyance for me if they damage it. That’s mainly because though, sometimes things getting damaged just happens, I try not to think that someone would intentionally damage property I’ve lent to them. Never returning it though can make situations very awkward, especially if they never own up to it.

Leftovers

One of the things that I absolutely hate about my last ‘relationship’, was that no matter how much I know I’m better off and no matter how much I love and adore my current boyfriend. I hate how the past can affect us and damage us for someone who has never done a thing to hurt us.

To make a long story short, my last “relationship” ended up being a disaster and have no idea why. The only way I can explain it to myself is that I honestly was just a bet. I am decade older than my last partner and he chased me for months (nearly a year) full well knowing that I’m much older than him, but we ended up dating…for a month. Now his reason was alright (after nearly a year he realised I was much older than him)…

But as all my ex’s seem to do, they just seem to turn on me? All my breakups have been “amicable” in that we’ve both realised it’s not going to work and somehow all of my ex’s, even when they not great friends with the person, they’ve all gone running to the person who hates me the most? It’s put some serious trust issues, deep embedded in me. My last ex, for example, using to complain about this “best friend” of his more than I did and I had more of a reason to dislike this guy, and does not respect the guy. Yet, the first person he goes to, out of all of his friends, is a guy he doesn’t respect and knows hates my guts?

The whole feeling though of feeling stupid for having such strong feelings for someone who thought me nothing more than a bet, still stays with me to this day and I just cannot shake it. It annoys me to no end. I am extremely happy with my relationship and I can tell it bothers my current partner that I seriously struggle to open up. I just cannot help it.

Any advice?