Let’s be honest, the worlds a bit shit right now.

Mass Shootings,

Body Autonomy being taken away

We have the big election this weekend (can you imagine what the Murdoch media is like!)

Anti-LGBT is a lot of the Murdoch media around the world. By the way, just as an semi-curious question, is there anyone you’re waiting to die? Not related at all.

Elon Musk may or may not buy Twitter.

I would like to know, apart from turning off social media, apart from the turning off the news. How do you cope when the world is pretty much, well crap.

I, probably obviously, like to read. I will just sit and read.

Now I enjoy gardening. I’ve gotten a couple of disgruntled text messages, because I went to check on the garden, ended gardening for a couple of hours, lol. Do gardening without taking your phone outside.

I play my games, so my Sims, Planet Zoo and sometimes Age of Empires.

I have so many colouring in books, lol

I guess I like to create.

Creating things makes me feel useful, if only in my own little world. I think that’s the important bit. You have to make sure you feel useful, even if it’s only for yourself, or too protect yourself.

I’m also sort of stuck right now, I want to create a home for my partner and myself, but he’s s fussy! Like he’ll say he’s okay with me making the home more of a home, but then you know, he’s clearly not. Because it is his home. He bought it, I help out with shopping and bills, but it’s legally all his. Sometimes I have to sneak things in. Or plan a good time for a “reveal”. It puts a hamper on things, lol. He buys this beautiful house, that I don’t actually like. But then he wont let me do things, so I can make it more “homey” and a house I like, lol

I used to have baths, but the bath plug broke, lol

And of course, music. Mostly Enya when I literally need to “sail away” in my own mind, lol

It’s the most busiest time of the year

… well … generally … Some of you may have even busier times of the years, in which case. I am so sorry!

Remember, though, to make sure you get through!

This time of year can be such a “bad guy” to a lot our mental health. Whether it is just the general stresses, have you got enough presents? Have you got the right food, are there foods to considers ie vegan options).

While I can post a whole lot of articles, about what makes a less stressful Christmas. Let’s have a discussion about it instead.

For myself, I come up with rules for myself, well in advance of Christmas (I have probably written about this before). During end of June, start of July, I started to put money away, especially if I still not yet working. Even if it’s only $10.00. By the time December rolls around, you have at least over $200. Which may not seem a lot, but if you’re a “smart” shopper, it can help a lot. Even if you use it just for food.

KNOW the dates and days surrounding Christmas. Find out if you have to work on Christmas Eve, and in some cases on Christmas. Then you can work out your present buying schedule. And work out your pays as well. I get my last pay, before Christmas (and for the year) on the 23rd of the 12th. So, that is the day I am going to the shops and getting any vouchers. Then Friday is Christmas Eve, the gift certificates should be the last things I need to get.

Internally, be satisfied, with what you can get. Too me, the point of Christmas, is not necessarily the gifts. They should just be, and always be an added bonus to the day.

Choose travel friendly gifts, especially if you have family or friends, coming interstate or internationally! We have a lot of family (hopefully) coming from interstate. So, their gifts must be able to be packed into a car, or a suitcase. With room for their own things, haha.

Don’t give up on things that make you happy. For example, I love to read just before bed. I’m not giving that up just to try and get some presents wrapped earlier.

And if you do go into the shops to get your presents, I’m trying to do both this year. But we’ve just had another outbreak of COVID. See if you can make a plan, before you go into the shops. If you are familiar with the shop, then that makes it easier (clearly).

And just have fun! ❤


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‘Cuse my French…Kindly Shut Up

I am not sure how many of my readers keep up with the latest Entertainment News. Recently Demi Lovato woke up from a suspected accidental overdose. I’m not Demi Lovato’s biggest fan, but saying things like “It was her choice”…Is not helpful and that’s not how addiction or mental health works. Having money means nothing, having the world at your feet means nothing, being beautiful, being young and thinking you’re invincible…Means nothing, if you don’t have the right support.

Take Katy Perry as well, not her biggest fan either. Some of her actions though, I can actually understand where she was coming from. She recently had an interview where she explained a lot of issues, including the live stream feed of herself. I don’t know anyone who actually watched it (do you know anyone who did?). Even that stream and the idea of it though seemed a little odd too me. Once she opened up, a lot more of the things she did, made sense to me.

Every type of health battle is different. So unless you have a conversation with that person, just don’t speak on matters you don’t understand. It’s kind of common sense really, well too me. This is for any health battle. If you don’t know what someones going through, breathe, take a minute and ask them. Don’t make assumptions. There might be a reason why people don’t want to tell you anything. Take Val Kilmer as an example, we still don’t know what was going on with him. Maybe there’s a reason he didn’t want to say what was going on and that’s perfectly fine, we don’t need too know.

We should just feel lucky that we don’t have to fight our battles so publicly.

❤ Please consider what you are saying before you talk with someone or about someone whose recovering ❤

This has been your weekly Public Service Announcement =P

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New Monday…New Week

Last week I started my work places second busy season of the year and at the moment it’s a little stressful because at the end of August, none of us casuals may be in a job anymore. I’m supposed to be moving in with my partner, but with so much uncertainty, I do not want to be a burden.

This week I am trying to stay positive, I am trying not to worry…A lot can happen in a month after all, but it is hard. So I am trying put together all my favourite things this week and try to concentrate on those…

I guess what I am asking is, what are your favourite things, what do you do when you are feeling so uncertain?

Surviving the “Run-In”

Before you go out this weekend read these articles! So you’ve just broken up with someone and if you are like me and the area that you live in is the same as mine. There is a a really good chance that you WILL run into your ex at some point.

The first thing is…DON’T PANIC! It’s a lot like little creepy crawlies, they are more scared of you, than you are of them!

This first article, I agreed with everything! The only one I would say is to take some thought first for Number 3 “Consider scheduling a meeting” (meeting with your ex first to discuss how you will handle what to do with mutual friends). Now the reason I disagree with this one is because:

a) You always should act with respect with your friends any way.
b) If your friends do take sides, they weren’t really your friend.

9 Things To Do If You Run Into An Ex, Because Hiding Is Rarely The Best Option

This second article might be written for the holiday period BUT I think it is still extremely written specifically for every day situations as well.

8 Ways to Survive The Dreaded Holiday Run-In With Your Ex

Winter Heat

I HATE Winter, I swear it’s been so cold this year and I know that last weekend we had one of our coldest days is quiet a few years. This year has been particularly rough though. Last weekend was cold in Melbourne and when I came home it was freezing, much colder than Melbourne, which was odd. This weekend I spent the weekend with my partners family and I was freezing.

What do you all like to do when it’s cold? Generally if I’m by myself I’ll cuddle up with a blanket and luckily my puppy means that she loves sitting on my lap and is like a little water bottle. This weekend was horrible because there was no heating in the little granny flat we were in and it got below 0! I don’t deal well with the cold and I hate not being able to have a little heater around to just take the edge off while I get changed. My bones and everything just hurt. I hate it…

This is mainly a rant blog because it’s so cold and now I’m home and all warm and it does feel magical. I feel my body coming to life again.

Are you, my dear readers, a Winter or a Summer person…Or even a Spring or Autumn person?

 

You can say that I’m a dreamer

So I recently read a really great blog post and a great read by The Zombie ShuffleAre you a Dreamer or a Realist? (go and have a read, great blog posts!)

I thought that it was a really interesting topic because it’s something that I’ve felt like I’ve struggled with a lot during my life. It started to make me think about some changes in my life and how I’ve come through them. I live a lot of my life “behind the veil”, in a way I day dream a lot. Many times while I’ve been day dreaming, I must look so unhappy because everyone tells me to “keep smiling”lol.

It’s an interesting topic because a lot of people assume that because I day dream I must be a “dreamer” or sorts. So I live in a world that’s full of puppies and baby bunny rabbits. This isn’t the case though. Last night for example, I pointed out to someone that saying “I’m not judging…” and then proceeding to judge someone doesn’t make it less of a judgement. Then they swore at me and told me to “shut the $%^%^% up” because I don’t know them. Which was ironic since they made a judgement on a celebrity that they don’t know either. It was one of those situations where you realised that they are in the little bubble and how dare someone disagree with them.

I believe that you can dream, dreaming gives me a safety net when the world gets a little rough and too hard. This might be by watching a movie or tv show where I can completely immersed into, listening to music and having a shower, writing.

Yet at the same time I am extremely aware of my responsibility as a human being on this planet.

I even did a test through Facebook Who is your Greek God parent? Where I got the God Apollo and this was his description“Your father is the god of the sun! You never cease to bring brightness to a dark world. You are wise and enjoy music. Be proud of your joy, but remember to recognize a grave situation when you see one.”

It’s tough being a “Idealist Realist”. You see all the wonder of the world, but feel the sadness of the reality of the world and you just cannot ignore it. It’s a little like having Ying and Yang scenario.

What do I do now?

So you’ve broken up with someone and you’ve gone through the whole “Why don’t they love me?” the drinking and the crying and the eating the really bad food. What next? I don’t know if anyone else has ever experienced it. There’s always a moment for me when I’ve gotten through all the bad stuff and I’m over it all. I think that’s the danger moment, when you can so easily fall back into a pattern.

We always hear about when we first break up with someone how hard it is and then how you’ll get through. What about that first moment when you realise, you are alright. Not the going to be moment, but…the moment…

It’s such a lost feeling you’ve been wrapped up in these feelings and emotions for so long and even with a short break up, a hard breakup can take a lot out of out. Yet, you’re not quite at the “I am SO over you” moment. You may not be over that person yet, but you know you’ll be alright.

Invisibility

I find this hard to explain because I consider myself to have a mild form of depression. This isn’t completely out of the realms of fantasy, since most of my Dads side of the family seem to suffer from it. The only thing is mine comes in waves if that makes sense? I’ll be upset for 30 minutes and then I’m okay again, or I use one of my coping mechanisms and I’m fine. Whereas others I know the low will go on for hours and that’s why I keep a lot of what I go through to myself. This is the “platform” that I have used to be honest and say for the first time to say publicly and honestly “I suffer from depression”.

Some of my coping tools are to just listen to a style of music depending on the type of mood I’m in, sometimes all that can through to my mind is to listen to some heavy metal music. Watching a comedy television show, I can only watch comedy through that time. How can I help others if I can’t be honest with them?

In Australia we also have this wonderful company called “Beyond Blue” (http://www.beyondblue.org.au/) If you are ever feeling down please look through this site, or if someone you know suffers from depression please read this site!

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