‘Cuse my French…Kindly Shut Up

I am not sure how many of my readers keep up with the latest Entertainment News. Recently Demi Lovato woke up from a suspected accidental overdose. I’m not Demi Lovato’s biggest fan, but saying things like “It was her choice”…Is not helpful and that’s not how addiction or mental health works. Having money means nothing, having the world at your feet means nothing, being beautiful, being young and thinking you’re invincible…Means nothing, if you don’t have the right support.

Take Katy Perry as well, not her biggest fan either. Some of her actions though, I can actually understand where she was coming from. She recently had an interview where she explained a lot of issues, including the live stream feed of herself. I don’t know anyone who actually watched it (do you know anyone who did?). Even that stream and the idea of it though seemed a little odd too me. Once she opened up, a lot more of the things she did, made sense to me.

Every type of health battle is different. So unless you have a conversation with that person, just don’t speak on matters you don’t understand. It’s kind of common sense really, well too me. This is for any health battle. If you don’t know what someones going through, breathe, take a minute and ask them. Don’t make assumptions. There might be a reason why people don’t want to tell you anything. Take Val Kilmer as an example, we still don’t know what was going on with him. Maybe there’s a reason he didn’t want to say what was going on and that’s perfectly fine, we don’t need too know.

We should just feel lucky that we don’t have to fight our battles so publicly.

❤ Please consider what you are saying before you talk with someone or about someone whose recovering ❤

This has been your weekly Public Service Announcement =P

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New Monday…New Week

Last week I started my work places second busy season of the year and at the moment it’s a little stressful because at the end of August, none of us casuals may be in a job anymore. I’m supposed to be moving in with my partner, but with so much uncertainty, I do not want to be a burden.

This week I am trying to stay positive, I am trying not to worry…A lot can happen in a month after all, but it is hard. So I am trying put together all my favourite things this week and try to concentrate on those…

I guess what I am asking is, what are your favourite things, what do you do when you are feeling so uncertain?

Surviving the “Run-In”

Before you go out this weekend read these articles! So you’ve just broken up with someone and if you are like me and the area that you live in is the same as mine. There is a a really good chance that you WILL run into your ex at some point.

The first thing is…DON’T PANIC! It’s a lot like little creepy crawlies, they are more scared of you, than you are of them!

This first article, I agreed with everything! The only one I would say is to take some thought first for Number 3 “Consider scheduling a meeting” (meeting with your ex first to discuss how you will handle what to do with mutual friends). Now the reason I disagree with this one is because:

a) You always should act with respect with your friends any way.
b) If your friends do take sides, they weren’t really your friend.

9 Things To Do If You Run Into An Ex, Because Hiding Is Rarely The Best Option

This second article might be written for the holiday period BUT I think it is still extremely written specifically for every day situations as well.

8 Ways to Survive The Dreaded Holiday Run-In With Your Ex

Winter Heat

I HATE Winter, I swear it’s been so cold this year and I know that last weekend we had one of our coldest days is quiet a few years. This year has been particularly rough though. Last weekend was cold in Melbourne and when I came home it was freezing, much colder than Melbourne, which was odd. This weekend I spent the weekend with my partners family and I was freezing.

What do you all like to do when it’s cold? Generally if I’m by myself I’ll cuddle up with a blanket and luckily my puppy means that she loves sitting on my lap and is like a little water bottle. This weekend was horrible because there was no heating in the little granny flat we were in and it got below 0! I don’t deal well with the cold and I hate not being able to have a little heater around to just take the edge off while I get changed. My bones and everything just hurt. I hate it…

This is mainly a rant blog because it’s so cold and now I’m home and all warm and it does feel magical. I feel my body coming to life again.

Are you, my dear readers, a Winter or a Summer person…Or even a Spring or Autumn person?

 

You can say that I’m a dreamer

So I recently read a really great blog post and a great read by The Zombie ShuffleAre you a Dreamer or a Realist? (go and have a read, great blog posts!)

I thought that it was a really interesting topic because it’s something that I’ve felt like I’ve struggled with a lot during my life. It started to make me think about some changes in my life and how I’ve come through them. I live a lot of my life “behind the veil”, in a way I day dream a lot. Many times while I’ve been day dreaming, I must look so unhappy because everyone tells me to “keep smiling”lol.

It’s an interesting topic because a lot of people assume that because I day dream I must be a “dreamer” or sorts. So I live in a world that’s full of puppies and baby bunny rabbits. This isn’t the case though. Last night for example, I pointed out to someone that saying “I’m not judging…” and then proceeding to judge someone doesn’t make it less of a judgement. Then they swore at me and told me to “shut the $%^%^% up” because I don’t know them. Which was ironic since they made a judgement on a celebrity that they don’t know either. It was one of those situations where you realised that they are in the little bubble and how dare someone disagree with them.

I believe that you can dream, dreaming gives me a safety net when the world gets a little rough and too hard. This might be by watching a movie or tv show where I can completely immersed into, listening to music and having a shower, writing.

Yet at the same time I am extremely aware of my responsibility as a human being on this planet.

I even did a test through Facebook Who is your Greek God parent? Where I got the God Apollo and this was his description“Your father is the god of the sun! You never cease to bring brightness to a dark world. You are wise and enjoy music. Be proud of your joy, but remember to recognize a grave situation when you see one.”

It’s tough being a “Idealist Realist”. You see all the wonder of the world, but feel the sadness of the reality of the world and you just cannot ignore it. It’s a little like having Ying and Yang scenario.

What do I do now?

So you’ve broken up with someone and you’ve gone through the whole “Why don’t they love me?” the drinking and the crying and the eating the really bad food. What next? I don’t know if anyone else has ever experienced it. There’s always a moment for me when I’ve gotten through all the bad stuff and I’m over it all. I think that’s the danger moment, when you can so easily fall back into a pattern.

We always hear about when we first break up with someone how hard it is and then how you’ll get through. What about that first moment when you realise, you are alright. Not the going to be moment, but…the moment…

It’s such a lost feeling you’ve been wrapped up in these feelings and emotions for so long and even with a short break up, a hard breakup can take a lot out of out. Yet, you’re not quite at the “I am SO over you” moment. You may not be over that person yet, but you know you’ll be alright.

Invisibility

I find this hard to explain because I consider myself to have a mild form of depression. This isn’t completely out of the realms of fantasy, since most of my Dads side of the family seem to suffer from it. The only thing is mine comes in waves if that makes sense? I’ll be upset for 30 minutes and then I’m okay again, or I use one of my coping mechanisms and I’m fine. Whereas others I know the low will go on for hours and that’s why I keep a lot of what I go through to myself. This is the “platform” that I have used to be honest and say for the first time to say publicly and honestly “I suffer from depression”.

Some of my coping tools are to just listen to a style of music depending on the type of mood I’m in, sometimes all that can through to my mind is to listen to some heavy metal music. Watching a comedy television show, I can only watch comedy through that time. How can I help others if I can’t be honest with them?

In Australia we also have this wonderful company called “Beyond Blue” (http://www.beyondblue.org.au/) If you are ever feeling down please look through this site, or if someone you know suffers from depression please read this site!

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Role Reversal?

Here I am again, feeling frustrated because no matter how many times I have rejected a guy. Apparently it is MY responsibility to make them feel better again and for months to listen to how much they like me and how strong they’re feelings are for me. Even though I have made it clear that 1) I am NOT interested and 2) I have met someone.

If I did this, I would be call ‘crazy’, ‘pathetic’ and ‘stalkerish’. Yet, if I call them that and I don’t just sit there, take it and listen to something that I think is actually unhealthy and not helpful at all, I’m a bitch. Why? Why do we just have to put up with these guys harassing us? The emotional blackmail as well! I got so fed up with one guy today I literally broke and started to lose it. When I told this guy I was refusing to talk about any-more his feelings for me (I said no to him mid-December and he knows I’m dating someone else) because it was clearly not healthy and it was clearly not helpful for him. He tried to turn it back on me “Oh, I was just asking how you were doing”. I LOST it! I have not lost it like that in a really long time.

I literally FEAR rejecting guys now, I really do fear it. I have been humiliated on Facebook because of rejecting someone, which honestly made me even MORE glad that I chose to say no to that guy. Why anyone of them (a group of people decided to tag me in a picture that basically called me a “bitch” and posted it on their Facebook, they wouldn’t have dared to post it on my own wall) would think that that would make me want to date him more is beyond me. I have had guys go off on me while in their cars, that is scary as!

Guy listen to me…Man up! Not one single girl I know finds it sexy to constantly harass us after we have rejected you, in fact, it makes us want to stay away from you even more you and humiliating us does NOT work for us! Not one single girl I know has changed her mind after you posted on her wall any type of “friendzone” meme. It makes us even more glad that we don’t choose you, except we can’t say that because we’ll be called a bitch and then have our name dragged through the mud.

Online Dating Update

Thought that I would give a little update to my online dating experiences (and hopefully give you something fun to read on this Sunday night).

Guy Number one:

I shall call him number one because it seems to be going really well with him. The first date we couldn’t stop talking to each other and I knew that I liked him when we got home late and I needed to get up early the next day and so I kind of ran out of the car, but then, in true girl like fashion, I realised he hadn’t kissed me…and I wanted him to and woke up the next morning with regrets =/

Guy Number two:

This one is going nowhere. Guys there are only a certain type of girl that will like the needy “tell me everything and who you are talking to” guy…I am not one of those. I had to finally reject him and let him know that I was not interested. There was nothing “bad” about him, he is just not the type for me.

Advice:

My biggest advice is to meet anyone you meet online in public, do NOT meet in them in private. Do not let them pick you up or drop you off on the first date (possibly the second too if you’re unsure). Do pay attention to what they are saying, guy number two (for example) starting asking me pretty nearly straight away who else I was talking to. Although I am not very experienced in online dating, I felt uncomfortable about him asking me. DO listen to your gut instincts. Once I had turned him down I have now spent the past three days (I am not kidding) trying to explain to him I am just not interested. It really feels like I’ve broken up with him, rather than just letting him down.