Share Your World 17-19-19

Share Your World

Share Your World 9-16-19

QUESTIONS:

Courtesy of Rory:

Are we losing the art of listening in comparison to simply hearing?

I do believe that most definitely that is true. I have to say I think I’m one of them. It can depend on how I’m feeling as well, if I’m trying to get myself out of an anxiety attack. I may not listen as much, if I don’t really like the person. If it’s a situation, you know where someone just complains and does nothing about their situation? My mum complains a lot about her work, but has never applied for another job and only really says anything to me about it all. A lot of her mangers seems to be borderline treating their employees illegal. Their managers customer service is atrocious as well! People only like talking to my mum and she’s the receptionist, so there’s only so much she can do herself. Even saying that my Mum is still a good listener, hence why people keep wanting to talk to just her.

How often do you openly discuss with friends or here in WP with your readership topics that make you feel uncomfortable or may be taboo or stigma laden?

Not too many people know about my WordPress, my partner does and possibly others do. I actually just had a “real life” friend post a screen shot saying the link to my blog wasn’t working. So people do know about it, but I don’t talk about it. Unless they bring it up of course.

Do you think that these discussions should be freely discussed and written about more?

Too a point, sometimes constantly talking about something can bring you down. But you need to get the awareness out there as well.

Did you have a nickname as a child and if so, what was [or what is it now]?

I used to get called Smiley a lot when I was kid, I always apparently smiled…a lot. The only time I used to cry was when I put in restraints. Who can blame me though! So my baby play pen and when I got older, I hated being in a seat belt. I still do really,lol.

Why is there still ‘stuff’ we simply just don’t understand despite our progressive world?

I don’t think we’re always supposed to understand everything. Otherwise would we be here?


Would you rather double your height or lose half your weight?  (In response to last week’s double your weight, half your height query).  Thanks Leslie!  Suggestion by Leslie – Swot8

I think double my height, I don’t think it’d hurt to be taller. If I lost half my weight, I’d be severely underweight. I’m trying to lose weight, jut not that much,lol


What is your most essential kitchen tool?  (Can be a person you know.  For the non-cooks in the crowd).

Courtesy of Roger Shipp

https://rogershipp.wordpress.com/2019/09/15/essential-kitchen-tools/


Gratitude Question:

Who is one blogger you really admire and why?

The blogger who I admire most is *drum roll please* BereavedSingleDad

Bereaved Single Dad has to be one of the most positive people I’ve “seen”, when with the things that have happened would break a normal person. I admire them because despite everything you just get the feeling that the ones he loves are never a burden to him. The places himself and his family have seen. His son is a very lucky person, I know far too many people who would have given up.

‘Cuse my French…Kindly Shut Up

I am not sure how many of my readers keep up with the latest Entertainment News. Recently Demi Lovato woke up from a suspected accidental overdose. I’m not Demi Lovato’s biggest fan, but saying things like “It was her choice”…Is not helpful and that’s not how addiction or mental health works. Having money means nothing, having the world at your feet means nothing, being beautiful, being young and thinking you’re invincible…Means nothing, if you don’t have the right support.

Take Katy Perry as well, not her biggest fan either. Some of her actions though, I can actually understand where she was coming from. She recently had an interview where she explained a lot of issues, including the live stream feed of herself. I don’t know anyone who actually watched it (do you know anyone who did?). Even that stream and the idea of it though seemed a little odd too me. Once she opened up, a lot more of the things she did, made sense to me.

Every type of health battle is different. So unless you have a conversation with that person, just don’t speak on matters you don’t understand. It’s kind of common sense really, well too me. This is for any health battle. If you don’t know what someones going through, breathe, take a minute and ask them. Don’t make assumptions. There might be a reason why people don’t want to tell you anything. Take Val Kilmer as an example, we still don’t know what was going on with him. Maybe there’s a reason he didn’t want to say what was going on and that’s perfectly fine, we don’t need too know.

We should just feel lucky that we don’t have to fight our battles so publicly.

❤ Please consider what you are saying before you talk with someone or about someone whose recovering ❤

This has been your weekly Public Service Announcement =P

Dalai Lama

 

Bull

Dr Phil

I honestly wish I could post this in Instagram comments sometimes! I’m sort of iffy with Dr Phil.

The amount of times I’ve encountered people who say horrible things because apparently if it’s been done to you, it’s okay for you to do it (see previous posts about my feelings about this here). Next time you say to someone you can’t say horrible things to others about race, sexism, sexual harassment, gender issues, because of who you are…Ask yourself when you’re spilling the same hate that was once spilt towards you …

“Hows that’s workin’ for you?

The Grudge

I had an interesting conversation with a friend over the weekend and it made me think how people will view grudges differently, depending on which side you are on That’s not too say that everyone is like this, after all we all experience things in different ways.

Let me explain…

Very recently both my friend and I both had people from our past that sent us friends on request on Facebook. Both people had been very cruel to both of us, for no good reasons. They both sent us a friends request with no message, apology or reasons why they felt like we should be “Facebook friends” and we both said no. One of us then heard about how their ex-friend was telling everybody how my friend was holding onto a grudge, and I was told “it’s in the past, why can’t I just let it go”.

I also have been in a situation where someone who used to bully me in primary school, wrote a message to me on Facebook and apologised. I accepted their friends request and I do not have one single regret.

I am a big believer in letting things go and forgiving people…not for them, but for yourself. Both of us can honestly say that we hold no grudge or even ill-will towards these people. We just don’t think we have to be friends with everybody. Clearly, the fact also that these people can’t even understand and instead of sending us a message to ask us “Why”, they decided to talk about it with everybody else, except for us. Which to both of us, shows us that really nothing has changed.

So, how about yourself, do you hold onto grudges?Are you good at letting things go? Do you believe some people will just never change? Have you ever been in a similar situation and what did you do?

In all honesty…

I was talking to my mum a couple of days ago and we were just talking about how which people know us really well and how much do people ‘think’ they know us. It started me thinking. I’m always pleasant to people, people always comment on how kind I am and how patient I always seem to be. I know I have a guard though and I know that I have a real hard time telling people…well…a lot really.

It’s not as though I wouldn’t open up, if someone actually ask me. If someone asked me a question about myself, I would tell them, but I just can’t willingly tell you about me.

It made me think about who are we really honesty with, who truly knows us…All of us. If I was to die tonight, who would be shocked to discover things about me, have I said all that I wanted to say?

What about yourselves? Do you think people know everything there is too know about you? 

Share Your World … Week 34

Share Your World

Share Your World … Week 34

What is your favorite comfort snack food?

I really love Nacho Cheese Doritos, they are so amazing! I could through a whole packet of them, every single time…And I may have…Once…or a few times…But not anymore! I have started to eat more healthy lately, so no more entire packets! I’ve cut down a lot.

Is the paper money in your possession right now organized sequentially according to denomination and with the bills right side up and facing the same way?

It is actually, my purse is a little small so I’ve had too fold the notes in half. I always try to put them in order though, with the smallest amount on the inside.

If you were a mouse in your house in the evening, what would you see your family doing?

Not much to be honest, especially at the moment, I’ve been sick the last couple of weeks. Generally I end up playing some kind of computer and will get on Facebook…and WordPress at some point. My Mum goes to meditation once a month.

Would you rather not be able to read or not be able to speak?

I honestly would rather not be able to read, because I could honestly listen to audio books and possibly get other people to read to me. Not being able to speak seems completely terrifying to me. I may not be able to speak well sometimes, but when I do, it’s honest and full.

Turn Offs?

I was having a conversation with some good lady friends the other day and we’re all in pretty serious relationships and the topic come about what we used to got through when we were single. We had a good laugh especially when it come to the topic of what used to turn us off…And how little of a clue these guys in our lives had/have about us. Which is why they are not with us.

It got me thinking about one thing that would instantly turn me off. There was one ex I dated and we had a lot of mutual friends before and after we had dated. Now, bless their tiny little socks, they have this hobby, were it doesn’t really encourage a whole lot of deep thinking. It’s more sitting around for hours and “discussing” people who weren’t there. The problem with this was…still is…The gossip at some point started to become fact, even if they never talked about the issue with THAT particular person. You’d only find out what had been said about you, when someone gets angry with someone else and then that person tells everybody else what you’ve said about them.

To break it down, not a single one these guys have actually had a conversation with me about who I am and what my ex actually did it me in our old relationship. They used to think turning me on would be one sentence:

“I’m nothing like your ex-boyfriend”. 

Yep, that was the big line. There was just one problem, they have no idea what he was like with me because they’ve never ever asked what happened. How would they know if they’re nothing like him? 100% of the time just on social media sites, I could see them interacting with him, just like him. Using the same language, commenting on their friends girlfriend boobs. Just from what I could see, they were doing the exact same things he does, all over a public social media site. So where’s the proof exactly that their nothing like him. Except for the fact that they were doing everything exactly like him?

I can’t even begin to tell you how many things these guys would do and say that were EXACTLY what my ex used to do and then in same breath say “I’m nothing like your ex”. That’s a whole other blog in itself.

So, readers what are your turn offs? Do you have people in your life, who don’t “get it” either?

Dictionary Meaning

*Now I have putting this post off for a very long time, been debating whether to post or not…But I felt like it needed to be said. I genuinely see a worrying trend starting to happen*

The dictionary term of racism is as follows:

racism
ˈreɪsɪz(ə)m/
noun
 
  1. the belief that all members of each race possess characteristics, abilities, or qualities specific to that race, especially so as to distinguish it as inferior or superior to another race or races.
    “theories of racism”
    • prejudice, discrimination, or antagonism directed against someone of a different race based on the belief that one’s own race is superior.
      “a programme to combat racism”
      I read this and not in one single term or meaning of racism ANYWHERE in the whole entire world does it say anywhere that racism only occurs in one group of colour of people? It does not matter what you “think” this is the facts of the case. There is no mention that racism occurs in only one colour of people. So why do everywhere do I read, it’s not racist if one colour is racist towards another because that person has experienced more racism than the other person? Bad English?
      No if you’re racist, you’re racist. What else is it?
      I know this is not my usual happy-go-lucky post. I am just starting to find it really disturbing though how someone can say they are not racist because the other person doesn’t “understand” but the comments and the hatred, while spewing hatred towards another colour, it feels very segregated. It disturbs me on a level I can’t explain.

      Racism is Racism and Hatred is Hatred, it knows no colour.

    I get that I don’t get what it’s like to be of another colour, but I do get fear and I get hatred. I don’t get going backwards and turning into something you hate and doing the exact same things as something you hate. I guess it’s like the situation with a bully, a lot of the times a bully is a bully because they themselves, have been bullied. I just want to understand I guess.

    I do get how putting people into boxes can lead to bloodshed and something much worse than opening up to communication and trying to understand. Let me in, let me understand what it’s like. I love people of all backgrounds, I know lot’s of people from different backgrounds. I’ve grown up with a lot of different backgrounds and I don’t understand racist people. Understanding our differences, it’s the only way we can understand what makes this world tick, what makes it wonderful.

    When has putting ourselves into boxes and categories and “they’re not us” mentality…EVER…worked?