I feel like I’m being listened too…

The last couple of weeks, haven’t just been mentally exhausting, but they’ve been great as well!

I really honestly feel like people are actually listening to what I’m saying, and that is a amazing feeling!

If you’ve been reading my blog for a bit now, you might have seen me write about a huge anxiety attack I had about a job. Well I also recently changed, what we called, a job provider. They have been amazing, I actually feel like they get what I’m talking about. They keep making me feel that they will actually work with me, rather than me trying to make them “look good”.

Recently, I have put in two complaints…I’m wont get too deep in it. But, I actually feel like these two companies ARE listening. In the past when I’ve put in a complaint, I felt like the people meant to protect people, sided with the bigots. I felt condescended too, but also there was a moment of clarity of “Well, that’s why that person’s still working there. Their company is totally fine with it”.

Tough Love

Have people forgotten about this all together?

Yarrrrrrrghhhhhhhhhhhhhh … I’m all about love and peace, but not when you’re enabling others to spread misinformation, or encouraging toxic habits.

My mum asked me the other what could she say to someone who kept sending her fake news about the COVID medications. I said just simply say “Please stop sending me this stuff”…Nope…So I said play it dumb…Nope…So I said “tell her to fuck off then”. Then later on, this group of people meet up at meditation (irony) once a month. Where my Mum said the majority of them, don’t like what she’s doing…So guess what they said to her when she brought it up…Nothing.

Now this woman’s DOCTOR son, is “threatening” to ban her from seeing his kids. I don’t blame him. She’s going around accusing people like her own son, of injecting people with fetuses. She wants to play victim?

It’s sad that her own son…whose a Doctor…Has to put his foot down, but no one else is willing to do it. She still thinks that she’s in the right, because no one is telling her how wrong she is.

You can absolutely talk to people, disagree, without being rude or unpleasant. You sometimes though, have to say SOMETHING!

A Great Big World

Thursday Theories – The Music = My Country

I want to change this post a little this week. Over this week, I was listening to some songs that make me nostalgic for how I think my country used to be, and how it should be.

Music is a different form of communication, it can make us feel so many different ways. It can invoke emotions that we sometimes forget are there. What I am going to do this week, is post five songs that make me “sappy” for my country, Australia. When I hear these songs, it reminds me that there is something beautiful still in my country.

I would LOVE for you all to either pingback five songs of your own, that represent your country to you. Doesn’t matter why. If you don’t want to do a whole post, then please post in the comments, the songs you think represent your country to you. If it’s your country’s anthem, go for it!

When I was in America, I sometimes would listen to this one song on repeat:

Christine Anu My Island Home – Uploaded by:
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I mean, everyone and anyone whose anyone, thinks this should be Australia’s National Anthem:

I still call Australia home- Peter Allen – Uploaded by:
Tassie TV

You are very much missed Peter Allen ❤ ❤ ❤

This one, speaks a lot about what’s wrong with Australia. Especially with the treatment of Australian Aboriginal People. You can’t have the good without the bad. On a funnier side, this is the video that made a lot of men scared of Peter Garrett, because of his dancing, haha.

Midnight Oil – Beds Are Burning Uploaded by:
Midnight Oil

Seriously, is there anything better than indigenous (of any culture) music?

Yothu Yindi – Treaty (Original Version) Uploaded by:

Yothu Yindi

I am posting a link to the Radio Mix of the same song, that I think a lot of Australian’s will be more “used too” Both are fantastic though.


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Do you have any IDEA how hard it is, to pick just 5 songs? lol … I do HAVE to include “the voice” though, lol

John Farnham – You’re the Voice (Official Video) Uploaded by:

John Farnham

Extremely honorable mentions:

Jimmy Barnes

Noiseworks

Dusty Slim

Icehouse

Sherbert

Daryl Braithwaite

Not expected mentions:

Look … I know AC/DC, Kylie Minogue, INXS, etc. Are Australian bands/singers, do they have songs that make me think “Australia”. That’s fine. This isn’t a list of what Australian bands and singers are my favourite. These are a list of songs, that make me think Australia and make me love Australia. Not sorry, but Kylie Minogue doesn’t have one, lol.

At this point in History …

If you don’t want to look something up, if you don’t want to talk to others, if you don’t want too do any research, if you want to make excuse after excuse. You either a) Genuinely don’t care about others and/or b) Quiet frankly, you’re just lazy. It’s one of the two, there is no excuse to not do research, to not reach out to the people you are harassing.

In my mid-long life, I have learnt

You can’t tell the people you know, anything, haha.

No matter who much someone you know may be surrounded by others, who know what they’re talking about. No matter how much someone you know may see those around talk about their experiences, about how real something is. No matter who many people someone you know may lose from their lives, because of their “No, not listening”. Some people just will not listen, will they?

I’m not just talking about when someone asks you for advice, and then they don’t take it. I think everyone does that. Although, depending on who it is, you might do. I’m also talking about how smart people around you, might be talking about how real COVID is, or something like that. Yet, someone you know, will take a picture of a leaflet they got in the mail saying how “fake” COVID is.

Not that I’m looking at anyone in my family in particular about that.

You know what I mean? Especially when you are Facebook “friends” with people who have actually had COVID. It’s just weird, lol

LISTEN!!! When did that stop???

*Long Rant Post Incoming. I have lot to say about people who do not listen anymore*

In all honesty, this is probably the only place I actually feel listened to anymore. So you know that post about how I hate birthdays? Well the saga’s continue…

My mum bought me tickets to A Candlelight orchestra playing Disney music. Which sounds great and it did. But then it started to get weirder and weirder. So my mum said why she have to ring up the place to find out if it’s a scam or not. As I mentioned, well you have the tickets, and the information. I do not. But I rang anyway…Three times…For it to basically be a scam. Well it sounds like one. So I tell my mum what I found out. It sounds like something to do with Vivaldi is on.

She then proceeds to ignore what I say and say well everyone else is still keen. Are you? When I read this, I remembered how only the weekend before how I had to go to a party that I knew I wasn’t actually invited to the first time.

So then she sends me a screen shot of a reply, saying oh look what they found out! It’s still on. Some weird explanation about how the Vivaldi has been a couple of weeks beforehand, even though the person I actually TALKED too. Said something very different, the Vivaldi thing was on this week and next week. She also said there was a mix up the week before, where people rocked up and nothing was on.

But you know, god forbid SOMEONE LISTENS TOO ME…

I am just over people not listening to anyone.

I think people more and more these days just want to be right and/or liked. Without listening to how they’re actions and words affect others. A lot of people I know were annoyed with me because beforehand I had said how I hate birthdays, because no one listens to you and you end up feeling like shit. People REALLY seem to believe that you can buy people expensive presents, that you can have a good night at somewhere. And it means that all the lead up is gone and buried and forgiven, it REALLY doesn’t! Funnily enough, one of my fellow Taurus friends who was born the day before me, agreed with me.

Let’s see what happened to the lead up to my birthday this year.

I was invited to a party for myself, and three others born in the same week. However, I wasn’t even invited to the first “round”. It was ONLY because everyone said no to the first date, nothing to do with me though. Though the people who invited me the SECOND time, thought it was. The first round’s date was on a long weekend, so no one was here, lol. I was only allowed to invited two friends, which I couldn’t do. Because if I invite that person, than those three have to come. Yet my mum, whose birthday it wasn’t even for, was allowed to invite all her friends. Yet, everyone will insist to me that they would never put this “family” over me. No one said anything to them, no one stood up for me, or point out how weird it was. I didn’t even get a say on the music list.

My partner made me come along to his game, that I have repeatedly told him I feel dumb, I don’t feel comfortable and he’s always telling me what to do…Because I DON’T KNOW HOW TO PLAY THE GAME. That was the weekend before my birthday. The weekend after my birthday, he didn’t show up to the party I was only invited to in the second round.

I didn’t have a good time because of any of them, I had a good time, because of ME. And because I invited my friends anyway, lol.

I don’t know HOW no one whose supposed to be close too me or who I’ve known my whole life, doesn’t know this about me. I am not motivated by money or expensive things. I am motivated by love, kindness and knowing who respects.

Enough about me though…Because it’s not just me this keeps happening too…Maybe it’s why though I can relate to a lot of people.

I am sure by now, for anyone who gets into disagreements and arguments with people, by now, you would have experienced or you would have seen someone say “It’s just my opinion”…Or “Are you saying I can’t have a opinion”. You’ll find most if not all people who say this, the person they’re talking never actually says that they can’t have a opinion. Most, if not all the time, people are pointing out what is actually wrong with their opinion. As an example, recently I had ended just a white man to fuck off with his opinion.

His opinion wasn’t you know “Swiss Cheese in the best cheese”. His “opinion”? That a black woman was lying about how WOC are more likely to die during childbirth, because Doctors don’t take them as seriously. Which has actually been proven before. Same with heart attacks. Not so much racism reasons, but because WOC always have to come across as…and as Michelle Obama says … Better than perfect. I asked this male, when was the last time he was WOC giving birth? Of course he replied with “What are you saying I can’t have a opinion (quote) fucking hypocrite” So I reminded him I didn’t say that, I just asked him about how he was claiming he had “experiences” then. Then told him to fuck off.

Meghan Markle and Prince Harry

Again, why do people trying to tell me what Meghan Markle and HARRY said? I actually listened to what they said. I wont listen to anything Piers Morgan has to say. That “man” has a unhealthy obsession with her, and anyone who doesn’t like him in general. I can always tell when someone has listened to him or the tabloids. Because they always do exactly what Harry and Meghan are saying. Harry and Meghan actually said:

  • Nothing bad about the Queen, in fact it was all positive, good and respectful and I suspect Harry may even be her favourite.
  • HARRY TOLD Meghan about the “skin tone” question. Also that it was “a” family member. And lets be honest here, we probably all have at least ONE racist family member. I do. Also though, if they had said that about my family, I wouldn’t overreact and try to convince every it isn’t me. Like certain white people are trying say Harry and Meghan are saying. That’s not what they said.
  • In fact, neither Meghan or Harry blamed their Family. They blamed the people working around them or “The Institution”.

I think a LOT OF WHITE PEOPLE. Just listened to and heard what they wanted too. What has been funny about that is that I don’t know WHAT the Royal Family or the Institution think they’re doing. But they’re desperate attempts of PR are freaking laughable lately. The tabloids are still doing what they’re always doing. The Royals work for the people…Not the other way round. Sorry, not sorry.

Just a reminder as well. All these white folks be defending “the Institution” which is what they’re defending. This is the SAME INSTITUTION that attacked and harmed Princess Diana as well. So when Harry said “I could see History repeating itself” I HEARD THAT…A lot of people heard that, except for some white people and the tabloids.

One-sided conversations

I think the thing that always frustrates me about bigots and their bigotry. Notice how they always say how they’re doing it for the ‘good’ of other people. Yet, I have to yet see anyone ask them to do “it”. TERFs are a really bad at doing this. They’ll talk about complete strangers genitalia how they’re trying to stop young women from cutting off their healthy breasts. Meaning they’re trying to stop females from becoming men…Yet, no one asked them to do this.

Bigots will usually feign concern, and saying they’re JUST “trying to help” “trying to protect” When no ones asking them too.

Here is my one sided conversation. March the 31st IS Trans Visibility Day. So, now I would like to change the conversation, to make this post a positive post instead =D

Wanted to start the lead to #TransDayOfVisibility with a article from @PinkNews When the MAJORITY of female athletes are saying positive things for trans youth in sports, maybe it IS transphobia. Then again that’d mean people would be LISTENING to women though.

While, technically I wont be able to watch this. It’ll be 4 in the morning for me, I’m sure a lot of you can. Katy is utterly lovely. So while I am sure the subject will be heavy, I am sure it will be talked about in a sensitive manner.

A Guide on how to educate yourself about transgender issues – Life Hacker

Social Media and it’s weirdness.

I’ve said it once and I’ve said it a million times. We know have these tools to communicate (and for free) and yet, we communicate less than we ever have before.

So why do people never use it? I was discussing with a friend the other day, how said it is, that the only people who seem to communicate with you. Are the bullies, are the bigots.

Friends and Family, always seem like the last people who want to communicate with you. I recently realised that I had been unfriended by a “friend” on Facebook, but she hadn’t on either of my Insta accounts. In fact, she was still made comments on some of my posts, on Insta. Yet, I couldn’t begin to tell what I had done. It’s the most bizaree thing I’ve experienced, because I’ve just been chatting to her, like nothing was wrong.

I actually thought that we got on really well. So I was a bit perplexed, still am to be honest.

This is what happens though, when you don’t communicate.

What people who do not talk to me, and communicate is. I literally do not care anymore, if you chose to unfriend me. I learnt three years ago, to no longer waste my time anymore on people who just make life more difficult, even if it is passive aggressively. What I always learnt three years ago, was that I am not a bad person. No matter how much my ex best friend may have called me that. So if you have a problem with me, it’s more than likely something I have done unintentionally. So if you have a problem with me, that you just have to unfriend me, or when I try to reach out and you still say nothing. It’s gonna stay your problem.

Obligations

I don’t know if men experience this too, but I am sure the ladies know what I’m talking about.

There’s always that one person, usually one of the opposite sex, who every single time you sign onto a social media platform, that also had DM’s or you can privately chat.

They’re there “Where are you” “What are you up too” “Can we chat” “Why wont you chat with me”.

It is REALLY annoying! And also really puts me off wanting to go on, which I guess, isn’t totally bad.

People, we don’t have to chat to these … I don’t know what to call them … Obligations

You should never ever be obligated in a friendship to chat just whenever they want. You are under no obligation to chat with someone when you don’t want to. I actually was a little shocked the other day when I post a message to someone, something that I thought they’d like. And they did say “thank you” But then ended it with “I thought you had forgotten about me”.

Like, come on. If you want to chat, see that message I sent you? You send one back through that. Communication is a two way street.

Posting a post on FB, Twitter, Insta … doesn’t automatically = I want a chat. If you want one though, ask.

Didn’t say that…

Has anyone else noticed that the Right keep saying things that the Liberals say things that, Liberals are not saying. The only “people” saying it are the Right?

  • People like Candace Owen say that Liberals keep calling George Floyd a “Hero”. No Liberal has ever called Floyd a hero. We say he’s innocent, not a hero though. Is CO saying that only heroes’ get murdered?
  • According to the Right we keep saying that you can’t be proud of who you are. We have never said this either. We say you can be totally proud of who are…but why are you proud to be white specifically? I’m white, I’m proud of who I am. Nothing to do with the colour of my skin though. Yes, black people can have Black Pride. No, we cannot have “white pride” because there’s nothing white, to be proud of. What do we have to be proud of? The KKK, Nazi’s, slavery, oppression. How many white men have you seen say we should be happy that they gave women the right to vote. Who was stopping women to vote in the first place?lol. And they STILL want to take our body choices away from us, too this day. Invading countries, nearly wiping out the entire indigenous population. just to tell people of colour, that they’re not allowed in “our” country. You know the country we invaded, and nearly wiped out the indigenous populations. How dare countries we invade think they have any rights to live in “ours”.
  • https://www.facebook.com/IamSouthAfrican/videos/840977289283837/