Ch-Ch-Changes

This post kind of follows on from the post I wrote yesterday. My brain gets literally confused with certain people though. The people I wrote about yesterday, how they’re don’t think YouTube or Twitter should change at all. How they are so dead set against these platforms being safer and just better mentally for people.

They are probably the same people who say things like “reverse” racism for white people, or the people that pick and choose sentences from the 2A rather than the whole thing.

Too myself “reverse racism” means that you are not actually racist. Reverse doesn’t mean the same, it means the opposite. I also find it funny though (not really haha funny) that a lot of people who claim reverse racism, are usually white. What I find funny is that these white people don’t see the irony in trying to make a special racism meaning for white people either. You are either racist or your not. There’s no other word, no other meaning.

Blog Name Change

This is something I’ve just started to think about and I thought of a different name and was wondering, as my usual readers, what you would think of the name

Lolly’s Library

instead?

The reason I ask is because the name Lolsy is also a nickname, but it was given to me by one of my ex-friends and I’m sorting hating using it. I have a feeling if she found out that I was using it still, it might cause a problem…That’s the kind of person she is…Most people though know me by Lolsy, as well as Lolly! Some of my nieces and nephews call me Aunty Lolly.

Please let me know if changing my name would be alright with you all? It’s not that much of a change, but I don’t want to do it “unawares”.

 

Friendship…Just a perfect friendship?

This was something that I wanted to post forever ago, in the previous year to be exact…But I thought reflecting on my friendships would be better to start off in the New Year.

For me personally, a lot of my friendships have change. Even though I’m 33 now, I finally got to watch my 30th party a couple of weeks ago and it made me realise how much has changed for me friendship wise…How differently I feel from that couple of years ago.

I was thinking and talking about marriage the other day myself and too me bridesmaids are the ones who are supposed to have your back, that’s why they stand behind the Bride. How many friends do you have in your life you can honestly say that you feel you can say this confidently?

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I would love to naively say that I would love to have a girlfriend group like Sex and the City. Even though I know it’s a tv show…It seems my little group is nowhere near this. One girl has just basically dumped us for an entirely different group for the last two years. The only time we see her now is when one of the other girls visits us from Interstate. That’s It. This girl that visits us from interstate, a couple of years ago she said that we were growing apart because for some reason she’s the only person I know that’s under the impression that when I’m single I’d rather hear my friends are being abused, then happy. You know what she’s done since then? Nothing. She hasn’t said let’s hang out and chat. She has hang out with our friends partners, more than me. Not only that when we were going through the rough patch, there was another one of our “friends” who started to attack me and all that was said “That’s who she is”…I didn’t feel better.

Now they’re all upset with me because I didn’t tell them I was in the hospital for a night. Well except the one that keeps attacking me of course,lol….And these are supposedly my oldest friends!lol

I want the Romy to my Michele (I am so Michele,lol)

The Fox to my Hound

The Carrie to my Charlotte (I will always be Charlotte too)

The Rose to my Blanche

The Jack to my Karen

The Chandler to my Joey.

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Amendments

So this is what “Amendment” means:

“a minor change or addition designed to improve a text, piece of legislation, etc.”

In others words…The word Amendment means it CAN be changed. Any of them. I was thinking about it…I am sure that the American forefather made it those words, so things can be changed. Although I was “told off” and told that the Government can’t touch the Bill of Rights…So why call them Amendments if they can’t be changed? Or if the people really want something changed, it can’t be? Or is it an American thing where everybody else has the same meaning for the word “amendment” and American just HAS to be different with it?

Be your own best friend

These last couple of years have been pretty rough on me, friendship wise. I’ve lost a lot of friends, friendships have changed and I’m came to the conclusion this weekend, that I don’t really have a “best friend”. I thought I did…But I really don’t think I do. I have good friends and close friends and fun friends. I don’t think that I’ve ever really had a “best friend” though.  A couple of years ago the best friends I thought I had completely changed (you can read the start of my changes here from a year ago).

Too break it down, one of my best friends got into an abusive relationship and it was on and off and I got sick of it. I stood up and instead of telling, well if they love each other they should work it out, I told to her to leave. I got hated on for it and that’s when it began. One of my “best friends” started to “accidentally” leave me out of ‘best friend and sister’ posts on Facebook, and then got all upset with me when I told her off. Then the actual girl told me we had grown apart because I was single, she didn’t want to tell me all the good stuff in case I got jealous. When she’s single, she gets jealous of happy couples. Except I have never been like that, shouldn’t my “best friend” of half my life know that? What kind of friend does she think I am anyways, that I’d rather hear about her getting abused, then happy things? Then every time she’s come out here, she seems to see only one of our best friends, out of our “best friend” group. In fact, she has seen one of our best friends partners one on one, more than me.

I think the thing that worries me most, is that I’m not even sad about it. It’s just feels like one less responsibility and less person you owe something too, or in this case three people. Have I become so cynical and heartless? As I have been slowly taking myself out. It’s been kind of nice too to take myself out of these groups, nice and slowly. As every time something happens and I am hanging out with them, all I can think “Why does nothing change” and also “How stupid are these people?”.

Not being ‘stuck’ in a group has also meant I have had more time to get out there and discover things I am interested in and meet new people. These included having more time to write a Blog, or the stories I am currently working on. I also go for longer walks with my dog. I can go off and explore things around the neighbourhood when I want, I have more time for crafting stuff. I don’t know if it is also because I have a good boyfriend who I can muck about it and he has been a better friend than they have. Maybe that’s also why it’s been so easy?

I feel like I get do things that I want to do, I can go to places I want too, eat at places I want to, shop where I want too and not feel like I’m being dragged along, or dragging someone else along too.

Sorry, I think that this post is a bit all over the place.

Are any of you in the same situation though? Do you feel like without those people in your life, you are actually alright as well? Do you feel like you should be missing them, but you are hey okay without them?

400!

I  hit the 400 followers mark this week! I am so incredibly excited and incredibly grateful.

For those who don’t know, I started this Blog as a school project and it’s progressed from there. Since I didn’t really have a plan to start off this Blog with, it has made many changes over the times I’ve had it. It is the longest diary/journal I have ever had. Although I’m not honestly sure I would call it that because, it’s isn’t like I’m writing extremely personal entries on here.

I love this Blog world. I really do, I feel safe on here. The people I’ve met on here, the way it’s change my life. It really as, I cannot talk about the topics and issues that I do with the people that I do on here with my own friends. It’s kind of sad really. I have to be honest. I think no one really wants to hear it, the people I know. Anytime I bring a topic on my Facebook, people just don’t want to hear it…Ironically, if you play the “happy” on Facebook, they’ll respond to that. Even though every single self-aware adult knows how fake Facebook is. Apparently it’s not okay to stand for something on Facebook. Damn, I am OVER fake! It almost seems to me that people want to encourage the fake, not the real.

That’s why I love the Blogging World. It doesn’t seem to have the extreme negativity that other sites Facebook and Instagram have. Why that is, I don’t know. It has the discussions, it has the fun. It deals with the real and the fake. I feel like I can be, I discuss whatever it is that I want too. People are reading what is in my brain, rather than judging me on what I look like, or what I dress up like…It’s so freeing!

The only thing that I honestly wish is that I could hang out with the people from the Blogging world.