Nurt Thur – Who is your Editor?

Nurture Thursday – Who is your Editor?

editing

I absolutely love this quote when it comes to us editing to ourselves. How to explain it though? Every time we learn something new about ourselves, we are editing ourselves a little bit. Sometimes we try to edit, a lot, the negative in ourselves. Make sure when you edit your experiences and change who you are. That you don’t accidentally delete all of you too.

 

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Share Your World, April Week 3, 2018

Share Your World

Share Your World, April 16, 2018

List things or events that changed your life?

  • When my Grandfather died.
  • When I got bullied in Year 6 (10 years old)
  • When my parents split up…and how I was treated afterwards.
  • Flying to America by myself to meet a guy! I still can’t believe I did that! No regrets!
  • Losing my “friends” at the beginning of the years…But it’s been a GOOD change!
  • Starting my Library studies.
  • When I was attacked by a male friend.
  • Having a massive panic attack and ending up in hospital.

Complete this sentence: Is it a bird? Is it a plane? No it’s…

Super Jebus!

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What genre of music do you like?

I’m one “those” people, who likes pretty much everything. Different types of music makes me feel different types of things and different moods. The only kind of music I don’t like is that screaming, death metal type.

What did you appreciate or what made you smile this past week?  Feel free to use a quote, a photo, a story, or even a combination. 

I smiled this week because despite other people not really being very helpful. I took my health into my own hands and instead of expecting other people to help me. I bought actual heart smart food and I feel SO much better for it. Even if my Mum is purposely buying bad food for me, for own odd reasons (for some reason she keeps buying battered food and no salad or fruits…I’m trying to watch my cholesterol for this month, I’ve got one more week to go) It’s up too me ultimately.

Blog Name Change

This is something I’ve just started to think about and I thought of a different name and was wondering, as my usual readers, what you would think of the name

Lolly’s Library

instead?

The reason I ask is because the name Lolsy is also a nickname, but it was given to me by one of my ex-friends and I’m sorting hating using it. I have a feeling if she found out that I was using it still, it might cause a problem…That’s the kind of person she is…Most people though know me by Lolsy, as well as Lolly! Some of my nieces and nephews call me Aunty Lolly.

Please let me know if changing my name would be alright with you all? It’s not that much of a change, but I don’t want to do it “unawares”.

 

Friendship…Just a perfect friendship?

This was something that I wanted to post forever ago, in the previous year to be exact…But I thought reflecting on my friendships would be better to start off in the New Year.

For me personally, a lot of my friendships have change. Even though I’m 33 now, I finally got to watch my 30th party a couple of weeks ago and it made me realise how much has changed for me friendship wise…How differently I feel from that couple of years ago.

I was thinking and talking about marriage the other day myself and too me bridesmaids are the ones who are supposed to have your back, that’s why they stand behind the Bride. How many friends do you have in your life you can honestly say that you feel you can say this confidently?

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I would love to naively say that I would love to have a girlfriend group like Sex and the City. Even though I know it’s a tv show…It seems my little group is nowhere near this. One girl has just basically dumped us for an entirely different group for the last two years. The only time we see her now is when one of the other girls visits us from Interstate. That’s It. This girl that visits us from interstate, a couple of years ago she said that we were growing apart because for some reason she’s the only person I know that’s under the impression that when I’m single I’d rather hear my friends are being abused, then happy. You know what she’s done since then? Nothing. She hasn’t said let’s hang out and chat. She has hang out with our friends partners, more than me. Not only that when we were going through the rough patch, there was another one of our “friends” who started to attack me and all that was said “That’s who she is”…I didn’t feel better.

Now they’re all upset with me because I didn’t tell them I was in the hospital for a night. Well except the one that keeps attacking me of course,lol….And these are supposedly my oldest friends!lol

I want the Romy to my Michele (I am so Michele,lol)

The Fox to my Hound

The Carrie to my Charlotte (I will always be Charlotte too)

The Rose to my Blanche

The Jack to my Karen

The Chandler to my Joey.

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Amendments

So this is what “Amendment” means:

“a minor change or addition designed to improve a text, piece of legislation, etc.”

In others words…The word Amendment means it CAN be changed. Any of them. I was thinking about it…I am sure that the American forefather made it those words, so things can be changed. Although I was “told off” and told that the Government can’t touch the Bill of Rights…So why call them Amendments if they can’t be changed? Or if the people really want something changed, it can’t be? Or is it an American thing where everybody else has the same meaning for the word “amendment” and American just HAS to be different with it?

Be your own best friend

These last couple of years have been pretty rough on me, friendship wise. I’ve lost a lot of friends, friendships have changed and I’m came to the conclusion this weekend, that I don’t really have a “best friend”. I thought I did…But I really don’t think I do. I have good friends and close friends and fun friends. I don’t think that I’ve ever really had a “best friend” though.  A couple of years ago the best friends I thought I had completely changed (you can read the start of my changes here from a year ago).

Too break it down, one of my best friends got into an abusive relationship and it was on and off and I got sick of it. I stood up and instead of telling, well if they love each other they should work it out, I told to her to leave. I got hated on for it and that’s when it began. One of my “best friends” started to “accidentally” leave me out of ‘best friend and sister’ posts on Facebook, and then got all upset with me when I told her off. Then the actual girl told me we had grown apart because I was single, she didn’t want to tell me all the good stuff in case I got jealous. When she’s single, she gets jealous of happy couples. Except I have never been like that, shouldn’t my “best friend” of half my life know that? What kind of friend does she think I am anyways, that I’d rather hear about her getting abused, then happy things? Then every time she’s come out here, she seems to see only one of our best friends, out of our “best friend” group. In fact, she has seen one of our best friends partners one on one, more than me.

I think the thing that worries me most, is that I’m not even sad about it. It’s just feels like one less responsibility and less person you owe something too, or in this case three people. Have I become so cynical and heartless? As I have been slowly taking myself out. It’s been kind of nice too to take myself out of these groups, nice and slowly. As every time something happens and I am hanging out with them, all I can think “Why does nothing change” and also “How stupid are these people?”.

Not being ‘stuck’ in a group has also meant I have had more time to get out there and discover things I am interested in and meet new people. These included having more time to write a Blog, or the stories I am currently working on. I also go for longer walks with my dog. I can go off and explore things around the neighbourhood when I want, I have more time for crafting stuff. I don’t know if it is also because I have a good boyfriend who I can muck about it and he has been a better friend than they have. Maybe that’s also why it’s been so easy?

I feel like I get do things that I want to do, I can go to places I want too, eat at places I want to, shop where I want too and not feel like I’m being dragged along, or dragging someone else along too.

Sorry, I think that this post is a bit all over the place.

Are any of you in the same situation though? Do you feel like without those people in your life, you are actually alright as well? Do you feel like you should be missing them, but you are hey okay without them?

The Grudge

I had an interesting conversation with a friend over the weekend and it made me think how people will view grudges differently, depending on which side you are on That’s not too say that everyone is like this, after all we all experience things in different ways.

Let me explain…

Very recently both my friend and I both had people from our past that sent us friends on request on Facebook. Both people had been very cruel to both of us, for no good reasons. They both sent us a friends request with no message, apology or reasons why they felt like we should be “Facebook friends” and we both said no. One of us then heard about how their ex-friend was telling everybody how my friend was holding onto a grudge, and I was told “it’s in the past, why can’t I just let it go”.

I also have been in a situation where someone who used to bully me in primary school, wrote a message to me on Facebook and apologised. I accepted their friends request and I do not have one single regret.

I am a big believer in letting things go and forgiving people…not for them, but for yourself. Both of us can honestly say that we hold no grudge or even ill-will towards these people. We just don’t think we have to be friends with everybody. Clearly, the fact also that these people can’t even understand and instead of sending us a message to ask us “Why”, they decided to talk about it with everybody else, except for us. Which to both of us, shows us that really nothing has changed.

So, how about yourself, do you hold onto grudges?Are you good at letting things go? Do you believe some people will just never change? Have you ever been in a similar situation and what did you do?

International Women’s Day

Today is officially Internationals Women’s Day…I say officially because I got all confused last week when people starting talking about “World Book Day” every where has different different dates. So I thought that I had better double check. Seems like today is the official day.

Every year there is also a theme for that year, this year the theme is #BeBoldForChange.

International Women’s Day: #BeBoldForChange website

How will you be Bold for a Change?

This is a great day to reflect and take a look at those women who we admire and why we admire them. Too take a look at ourselves and question what we can do to make the lives of others better. Not just women, but for all. I think considering the type of people who are in charge of running our countries, not just the orange Oompa Loompa, we NEED to take a long hard look at ourselves and see what we’ve become.

11 Facts about Women around the World … Do Something. Org

23 Fast Facts about Women’s Oppression Worldwide (Blog)

10 Facts about Women in the World … World Food Programme . com

Did you know: There is also an International Men’s Day, which is held on the 19th of November

Which women do you admire and why?