Single in a small city

For those who have been following my Blog for a while now, have probably seen my Category called Single in a small city. Now, the funny story behind this catgeory, is that I created it and the next month I ended up being in the relationship that I am in now, for 7 + years. It felt a little odd to be talking about dating, when I am off the market.

For the longest time, I didn’t know what to do with that Category, and now I think I know what to do!

I’m going to give out dating advice, dating advice and also how to help handle breakups. Sometimes, people need just the cold hard “yes or no”. Which is funny, because I’ve only had (have to count this on fingers) 4 real relationship’s in my life. Watching other people though, and having a now ex-friend obsessed with being in relationships, she was the reason I did not want to be in one, lol. Sometimes being an outsider, you can see things, that others cannot.

So I am changing the name of that Category =D Have a look … I don’t actually like the name, but it’s all I could honestly think of, without sounding totally creepy, lol

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Welcome!

I thought that I would start this new Category of “Learn something new every day (or week). I thought since I am always preaching about learning something new every day, I thought that I’d start sharing something new that I’ve learnt during the week. I could try posting something every day, but we all know that I could NEVER keep that up! Now, you may be aware of what I write about, but to me it’s new and to others it could be as well. I encourage everyone to share what they know about what I write about.

Welcome to my very new post of “Learn something new every week”!

I wanted to start off with happy facts, since it’s been such a weird couple of weeks and it seems like there has been very little happiness out there lately.

Did you know that Cat’s don’t generally meow to each other? They generally only meow to human beings. When they “speak” with each other it’s generally through eye contact, body language and smell.

Meowing and Yowling – ASPCA

That old age question…The rules of being single?

Ha! I finally found another topic to write about under my “Single in a Small city” category. For those who don’t know there is a lot of irony in this particular category. I was 30, I had been broken up with someone for about a month and so decided to write about being single in a small town. Well the “irony” about it is that roughly a little over another month later, when I started this category, I started dating someone….And the rest…as they say…is history.

I felt it was a little wrong about talking about being single, when I wasn’t anymore. It was also funny because usually when I’ve broken up with someone, I’m usually would stay single for about a year. It’s not a rule, it’s just something that always seemed to happen to me, so to be dating someone a couple of months later was a huge shock for me.

The other problem with being a small city is that a lot of the time, it’s a Kevin Bacon six degrees situation. The person you like or are dating or are interested in, even when you think you’re dating someone completely different from your ex. There is usually someone they know who will know your ex in some form or another.  So although there came a time when I refused to date anyone from the same group as my ex, after the appalling way I was treated by the “good guys”. Every ex since, has known someone from my ex’s group, who knows my ex…Complicated, isn’t it?lol … So you can have a rule about not dating anyone from your old friendship groups with a ex that you share, but it is so hard to do that here.

Do you have any rules, readers? When you’re single, do you not date for a set amount of time…Or are your rules more like “guidelines”?

Facebook Official!

So it has been…Since I don’t know when I posted something under this topic. What happened (if you are a fairly new readers) I started a category on here, talking about being single in a small city (a clever take I thought on a famous television show with a similar title). I had set-up a dating site, was dating, all sorts of things.

I was determined to start looking at dating in a whole new light.

Then, I am not even joking, within probably a fortnight of starting the new category. I met someone and now we are all “Facebook Official”. I have learnt that you are not “official” until you are official Facebook. We’ve even said that the big “L” word.

HOWEVER, I do pretty much have 31 years of being single behind me. I have dated the worst, the best and the…well I don’t know what to call them really…behind me. So I will continue to use this category, just more about advice and things I’ve learnt about dating over the years.

For my piece of advice I am going to repost a post of mine, because this an important one! What we leave behind

When you are single you need to be able to have something “fun” and when you have someone in your life, doesn’t matter if it’s a boyfriend or a “lover” (I always say that word funnily). Do not let someone like this determine how good you’re getting it ~.^