I agree

*nods head*

Bill and Melinda Gates says that marrying the right person is more important than your career

I find it true because if you have the right person, then they can support you in your career. I know of a person who got married to someone whose chosen career meant they were more than likely going to be travelling a lot and the other worked in retail. Then came the time when they realised they were to going have to move, the marriage lasted only a year after that.

I never understood why they got married, when one person wasn’t really willing to make the commitment, and it was obvious. It’s interesting though because the person not willing to move is still single. The one with the career, is now in a happy relationship.

Whereas my cousin who works in retail, is married to a Doctor. My cousin understood early on that he was probably going to have to move, and since he worked in retail (like the other person) it was easier for him to come with, rather than stay. They are still going strong.

Basically it is more important to have the right partner than a job, otherwise there will be no marriage.

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Share Your World June Week 4

Share Your World … June 26, 2017

What goal are you working on now? Your goal can be something fun or extremely serious.  Have fun with this question.

I have a few that are serious one and a few that I would love to happen, but they don’t have too or they probably wont.

• A more permanent position in the Library field, rather than just casual.
• Leave Tafe for good!
• Finish writing the fiction story that I’ve been writing for the last few years…Whether I’ll try and get it published, is yet to be seen!
• Start a little “on the side” craft business. Which I hope would give a little bit more extra money. I don’t expect it too be a booming thing, but just something for a little more “pocket money”.

What is one thing you’re glad you tried but would never do again?

A couple of years ago and luckily my birthday present came in time for a future bad breakup. One of my friends gave me a gift certificate towards swimming with Dolphins. These weren’t like “trained” Dolphins, we went out on a boat, in the ocean, and we had to hang onto these ropes and look into the ocean (with Goggles). It was a very surreal experience, but I didn’t love hanging onto a rope to keep us near the boat, in the ocean, that was very scary too me. I went out a couple of times and then spent the other half sitting on the boat, watching the Dolphins swim by. Plus I was by myself, I felt pretty lonely.

Did you choose your profession or did it choose you?

I feel like I have had to fight to get into the Library profession, but my Gran keeps telling me that she thinks that I was supposed to do something else. Like the writing or acting, or something like that, and I kind of agree with her, but I’m not brave enough to get out there yet and find out what that is. I can’t really see myself doing an 9-5 job. I think I’d go nuts!lol

Have you ever gotten lost?

All the time! Both literally physically and mentally. I was born and raised in the city I still live in and I still got lost all the time. I have people from interstate ask me for directions and I pretend that I am from interstate as well, or that I’ve just moved into the are myself!lol

Share Your World … Week 32

Share Your World … Week 32

If you could have an endless supply of any food, what would you get?

It would have to be either Lasagna or Seafood, if I get to choose when I’m feeling that I need to be a bit healthier.

What is the worst thing you ate this last recently?

I think it was more a drink than food…I think, I’m not 100% sure. It was milk, but it was only out of date by one day. Something definitely upset my stomach though and it was the only thing that I had that was a little funny.

You are comfortable doing nothing? For long stretches of time?

It depends on what I “can’t” do. I can sometimes play the game “The Sims” for hours and not notice the time passing. Over the last couple of years though, and since I’ve hurt my leg, I can’t sit down and do nothing for hours. It makes my leg stiffen up.

List of Jobs You Think You Might Enjoy: Even if you aren’t thinking about a career change, it can be fun to think of other jobs you might enjoy.

Well I still actually have to get paid, but I am still hoping to get paid work as a Librarian. I think I would enjoy being an actor, I love to dress up and not be myself. I used to be on the stage for most of my life, doing ballet, drama and music…Then I grew up -.-

30 Days of Gratitude…Days 8 – 14

(Well this one shall be very interesting since for half of it I’ll be at a family reunion).

Day 8: Alone – My mum is gone all weekend so this means that I have the entire weekend to myself! So far it’s been bliss (mind you though I’ve had to do homework all day). One of the things that I love at being home alone for a weekend by myself is the absolute solitude. Don’t get me wrong, living with my Mum isn’t all bad. Sometimes though you do a couple of days to yourself, so you can regather yourself back together. My mum has this habit of coming home and as soon as she walks through the door is complains. Sometimes, especially on bad days I actually dread her coming home because I know she’s going to complain about something and it makes me feel worse. I am grateful to have these rare moments alone.

Day 9: Study – I have finally managed to hand in a huge project and it was a huge effort to put since it was a topic I was not interested in and it took forever. Pretty much every spare day I had was taken up with it. This entire weekend I spent working on it and I have a test I really needed to study for. The reason I am grateful for my studies though is because not only is it helping me get into the career of my dreams. I am learning different things that help me in my work. At the moment we are learning how to make web Dewey numbers, every section of Dewey that I’ve learnt I’ve been able to then help customers out where I work. Sometimes work is busy so I don’t really have time stand back and learn.

Day 10: Drama Free: So there I was thinking what am I grateful for, because nothing really happened today…but there is something to be grateful in that alone…Nothing…Only two weeks ago I was angry beyond comprehension and my ex messing me about was beyond horrible. He made me feel worthless and the pain he had and was putting me through meant nothing to him. Like he didn’t care whether I was dead or alive and then he speaks so condescendingly to me….To NOT have anything like that in my life, is calming and beautiful.

Day 11: Single-hood – So I had a HUGE test today on my toughest subject. After the tests on this subject, my brain is completely fried and I fall asleep where ever I am. It was in this moment that I’m grateful that I don’t have children and I can rest easy. I’m also grateful because though by the time I have children I will be an expert on the subject, have a good job because of my studies and be able to comfortably provide for my children.

Day 12: My bed – I know this seems like an odd one, but I am very grateful to have a bed that I can get into a night and feel safe at night. I can dream at night, feeling safe with a roof over my head and safe in my bed.

Day 13: Brother – My brother came back today to visit us as we going on a family reunion trip this weekend. The reason I am grateful for my brother isn’t because he’s done anything amazing for me. He’s done great things for me, but the reason I am grateful to have the brother that I do is because he reminds me constantly what a MAN is. My brother is a Drag Queen, and a seriously good one at that too. He has won many Australia awards for the work that he had done. While I have all these “straight manly men” telling me that a man is only a man if he has a beard, or if he has big shoulders…My 6’4′ gangly brother is being a man, by being who he truly is. He is a constant reminder that a man is not made by what is on his face (neither Steve McQueen or James Dean had a beard can I just say too) or what he hides behind. A man is a man because he has the strength to be who he truly is. THAT’S a man!

Day 14: Family – By the time you read this I will be with my family at our family reunion. I LOVE my family we are all so different but we love each so much. It’s our differences that hold us together. A round up on the “labels” of people that will be at this reunions are: gay, straight, religious, athletic, creative, intellectual, spiritual. Yet, I can guarantee that we will have the most amazing time. From all of my other friends I know how incredibly lucky that I am too have the family (mothers side) that I do…My Dad’s side, don’t even talk to each other.

Odd one out…

Last night my best friend came in from Interstate. I have about three female best friends and ironically I could probably pick a “Sex in the City” character for each one of us (I would be the Charlotte in the group…but probably more after being influenced by Samantha). The interesting thing about my little groups of girlfriend is…I am the only single one.

Last night was fun and we talked and giggled a lot, but it was hard to hear about the problems they were having, especially when their guys are completely nuts about them. They are mostly things that they knew could be an issue later. I think that’s the hardest thing about being single, especially when you are the only one, is listening to how bad a friends relationships is, when it really isn’t and that they knew this issue would be coming up later.

I would LOVE a man who was devoted to me, who had my back, who talked to me, who tried to cheer me up when I am down. I have always had the opposite in my life. I have always had the guy who never had my back, including watching me get bullied mentally and physically by his roommate, the one who’d rather play a computer game then take care of me the night my grandfather dies, would rather spend Valentine’s Day with his friends than me.

I don’t get into relationships a lot, in fact, after 30 years I have only been in three relationships. My main problem is once I find that guy, I jump right in, and instead of letting it build up slowly and making sure that I am not falling for a façade. Except if I knew about a major issue, like children, marriage, career plans are likely to become an issue later I would never get into that relationship. I seem to find a lot that I am the only one like that. A lot of girls will get into a relationship to be in a relationship and that’s when the problems start.

True, I have nights where I feel so alone that I hold onto that pillow like I never have before…but I also know that one of the worst feelings in this world is feeling completely alone while you have someone lying right next to you.

Am I the only one who might WANT a relationship, but don’t feel like I NEED one? Am I the only odd one out…I would rather be alone, than feel alone.