This was a hard one for me because there are a few things that people have given me that I am grateful for in many different ways. I have also taken this week as not just a specific gift that someone has given me, but also part of who I am and why I am the way I am, that other people have given me. Those who have given me the gift of making me “harder” by hurting or betraying me, those who have given me the gift of giving me more of an open mind by opening up my world and my mind.
An actual gift that someone have me though, there is one that sticks in my head. I have a huge white fluffy rabbit, it is great for hugging and just sitting against. I have had this bunny for years and year. I think that I may have been possibly about 10 maybe 11 ish years old? The reason why it sticks out to me the most, is not generally because the size of the bunny. I am not even kidding when I say even now, too me, it’s a really big bunny rabbit. However, the reason why it sticks out in my mind is because it was given to me by my Grandmother and it was an Easter present. It was the first year I did not get chocolate. Which was great! I actually am not a big fan of chocolate and it would get wasted on me. This huge plush bunny rabbit is STILL with me, it was the first time I was given a gift that was actually “me”.
In a world where we have so many young people suffering from self-esteem issues. It was, too me anyways, really great to see someone realise how totally gorgeous they look. However, the comments about this girl were horrible. I just don’t get it. You just cannot win these days. There seems to be an “acceptable” level loving on oneself, and I just think it’s a little ridiculous. If more people appreciated and loved on themselves a little more, we’d have a lot more happier people. A lot less problems too I would be willingly to bet.
Just remember when someone is appreciating themselves, it might be the only day that year that they actually feel good about themselves. So don’t bring them down, because really it’s your issues, not theirs. As long as their not only about their looks, and they are just beautiful on the inside, what’s really the problem?
Not only am I a huge Disney fan, but my favourite top 3 and my favourite Disney princess are from “Beauty and the Beast” (my favourite Disney movie is the Lion King). Every single time I see something new about their live action film I get more excited.
What do you think? Are you looking forward to this movie?
I decided to continue on with my post from yesterday I am Beautiful. I am achieving this by writing a list of things that make me beautiful, that have nothing to do with my looks. Please feel free to share and please feel free to use this for your own post! As Mama Ru says
I am beautiful because:
I know how it feels to feel alone and not worth it and I will do all I can to make sure others don’t feel like that. Even as an adult I will hug my plush toys/dolls to not burden others with my problems. Even on my worst days, I don’t take my problems out on others, and if I feel like I can’t handle others problems, I’ll walk away until I can. I know how to listen, even when or ESPECIALLY when it’s something I don’t want to hear or know about. I randomly post happy/cute videos on my Facebook when I can see lots of people are having a bad day, to try and cheer them up. As I’ve gotten older, I have learnt it’s okay to love myself. I love to learn about new cultures and I try to incorporate them into my own life. I know that as long as you are not hurting others, or yourself, there should be no stopping you from doing whatever you want. I know that there us a beauty is saying “Goodbye”.
I read it over the weekend and it struck a chord with me, and I highly suggest you read this article. If you don’t want to, here’s the break down: Have you see the commercials by Dove Real beauty ads? They also include telling total strangers that they’re beautiful and making them smile. The author of this article is not necessarily calling herself “ugly”, she’s just saying that she’s being more realistic, and that she may not be the most beautiful person on the planet, but that shouldn’t diminish her worth either. She says and I quote
“This is why the ad campaigns that tell everyone they’re beautiful are so dangerous. They link beauty with worthiness and kindness, doing nothing for the people thrust into the world knowing that simply isn’t true.
Instead, we should teach people, especially women, that their beauty doesn’t define them. We need to teach them that their worth comes from much more than their appearance. We need to stop shopping the narrative that everyone is beautiful (or could be, if they did x, y, z). We need to lift women up to be competitive workers, voracious learners and empathetic people. No matter what they look like.”
I have to say that I agree with her. I wouldn’t call myself ugly, but I am definitely the not the prettiest person in the world. Neither do I believe that my looks are the reason I get people flirting with me. (This is why you need to read the article).
I remember once watching a television program about a murder that happened in the early 80’s and it was the 30th anniversary of a murder that “shook Australia”. I started to feel less sympathetic for the family as it went along and although it was terrible to feel like that. The reason that I felt the way I did was because the family could say nothing else but that she was beautiful…That was it, they never mentioned if she was a good or kind person, or the good work she did as a Nurse. At one point the father said “She didn’t deserve to die, she was so beautiful”…because only ugly people deserve to die?
So I found this series of pictures/memes on Facebook’s page Disney Memes (there’s a couple of these pages). Beauty and the Beast is probably my favourite Disney movie, but Lion King is a very close second. When I first watched the movie I was not aware of the whole history behind it, other than I got what it felt like not to fit in, like Belle. I recently wrote a post about how two people can the exact same thing and yet get treated completely differently (Find it here: Peas in a Pod)
These pictures are definitely an extension of that. Just recently for example, I had my 30th a couple of years ago and lot of people didn’t show up…Their reason? “We don’t dress up” Yet, just a couple of weeks this other person threw a costume party and ALL the people that used the excuse to me they weren’t coming to mine, went to this one AND dressed up. Still to my face are calling me a “friend”.
This group was probably the main reason I wanted to give up, not necessarily kill myself or anything, but becoming a Hermit was definitely a reality for me. I definitely like a monster and true friend would never make you feel like that. Belle has always been my favourite Disney princess because I can totally relate to her reality. I get called beautiful a lot and yet, have never fit in.
What was one of your first moneymaking jobs (other than babysitting or newspaper delivery)?
I was a call centre operator and oh my goodness, I would rather work at a funeral home, then work at a call centre ever again! You have to have a thick skin for that one!
What is your favorite month of the year?
People are always surprised to hear that my favourite month is December and not my birthday month of April. I don’t hate my birthday month, but how often during your birthday do you actually get to do what you want to do? As I get older especially I’ve noticed that I am having to cater to other people on my birthday. We have to go to certain restaurants because people don’t like the selection at the one I like.
What three things in nature do you find most beautiful?
Any baby animal, furry, scaly, feathers…Have you ever seen a baby birds heading bopping…So cute! So vulnerable!
Any beautiful lake or pond. Where my partner lives he lives near this man-made pond and even though it’s man-made. There are so many different birds and it’s really nice waking up to the sound of the birds.
Butterflies, have you ever seen a monarch butterfly? There are so pretty and seem so fragile. I don’t think they live for very long though. Every time I see a butterfly, I stop and look.
List at least five of your favorite spices? (excluding salt and pepper)
During the weekend I went into numerous toy shops looking for a plush Hyena…I dressed up as Harley Quinn for an “Heroes and Villians” party over the weekend, so I thought that I would give an Easter twist to my Harley Quinn costume. I could not find a Hyena anywhere! They had Serval Cats (because I hear kids want them all the time) and some Wild Dogs (The number one Hyena enemy!)…But NO Hyena!
Anyways, while looking in one store, I came across this little treasure.
There was a whole bunch of them together, I didn’t get Belle because as you can see even just behind the Beast here, I have a lot of Belle.
I detract from my story. I was a little shocked to discover the name of the company and the stand that these figurines were all standing on. Why was I shocked you ask yourself? Well I was shocked because it wasn’t exactly the first name I would think of when thinking of Disney Figurines.
The company’s name you may ask? … Bullyland … by Paragon Toys. It was just a little bit of a shock, it’s a bit of weird name right? It wasn’t just me, was it?