One of the frustrating things in this day and age is getting hit on and asked out on a date by someone you are just NOT in too. Why you ask? Shouldn’t we be flattered and honoured that someone finds us remotely attractive? I say to you friend, No…For one tiny little label…”Friendzone”.
I can’t even begin to say and tell how many times I have said “No” to a proposal of a date because I am just not interested, to wake up the next day to a whole posts of being tagged in a “Friendzone” type meme. I have been publicly called a slut and humiliated in front of my ex (which is a huge NO NO!) all because “How come girls go one about how there are no ‘good guys’ out there and then we end up chasing jerks”.
Except I have never once said that there are no good guys out there? I don’t even believe it. None of my girlfriends have said it either. Yet, because of one guys bruised ego we are automatically given a label of being bitches and harlots because we said “No, not interested”. I in fact still keep being asked out by one particular guy all the time, even though since I’ve known him I’ve had two relationships! Yet I made to feel bad because I choose not to date him, still? If I kept chasing a guy like that, I’d be called “desperate” and still I am in the wrong, for saying “No”.
It is actually terrifying these days to “reject” someone. I use to literally just say “I’m sorry, I’m just not interested”, but now I feel like I have to come up with a whole explanation. I want to be able to say that girls do this too, but I never really seen a girl ever complain about being put into a “Friendzone”. I honestly believe it’s more scary these days to reject someone rather than asking someone out.