The Blogger Recognition Award

Blogger Recognition

I have been nominated by the lovely lauravent69 for a Blogger Recognition Award.

The Blogger Recognition Award is an online award given by bloggers to other bloggers as a way to recognize the efforts they put into their site.

AWARD RULES:

  • Thank the nominator, and publish a post on your blog about receiving the Blogger Recognition Award. Make sure to provide a link to the nominator’s blog in your post.
  • Give a brief story of how your blog started.
  • Give two pieces of advice to new bloggers.
  • Nominate 10-15 other bloggers for this award, and inform them of their nomination.

Thank the nominator

I was nominated by the very awesome LauraVent69. Please pop over and have a look her. Not only are her blogs funny but they are also extremely entertaining. I especially, have been enjoying her post about colours.

How I got started

If you’ve been following my blog for a while now. You probably know that I started this whole blog has a school project. I was doing my Library course and one of our electives was to learn about social media. So I thought it was an important class, because I did notice that a lot of Libraries are starting to get in on the whole social media thing. One of the classes we were learning about, was media platforms that we had never heard of before, and WordPress happened to be one of them.

Two pieces of advice for new bloggers

1 – I think the first bit of advice, is kind of obvious. Write for you. I know it’s a “duh” thing, but being on Quora and watching the amount of people who want to start a Blog to make money. It’s not a good place to start. I only know of a couple of Bloggers on WordPress who are making money, and it took them a while. If it happens, that is beyond fantastic. But ultimately do it for you and because you want to be here and because YOU want to do it.

2 – While I don’t think you need to stick to a specific theme to stick too 100% all the time. It’s good to have something to think about and write as a constant. The hardest thing can be figuring out what that is. As I mention above, I started this for a project for school. So when I started I was doing a Library Diploma and so thought that writing about Libraries would be a great Blog to blog about. As time has gone on, it’s changed a bit. My blog is now, for me, about learning, about…well everything. “Learn something new every day”. Learning and Understanding. Two important tools for any Librarian to have. I love trying to understand things and people, so that way I can understand where people are coming from. I love learning about new ways to cope with things, like anxiety and mental health.

MY NOMINEES:

Last night I was going to finish off this blog, but I got called into work and am now work crazy hours this week. Meaning, more hours than I’ve been getting lately. So I don’t really have the time to nominate so many people. I’ll try a couple though:

 

Think before you “Do”

I still think it’s funny about my category “Single in a small city”. For those who don’t know, when I created the category “Single in a small city”. I think literally, I went on a date the next week and that was 4 years ago and I’m still with the same guy. So a couple of months later I felt a little like a fraud writing about being single, when I wasn’t anymore. It felt a little rude, writing about being single, when I was not.

Before getting into a relationship, here’s what to consider.

  1. Probably the most important thing to do before you get into a relationship. LOVE YOURSELF…In every way possible!
  2. I know it sounds unromantic, but make sure you can get out if you get in.
  3. Never lose your friendship with your friends. Keep them around. Don’t dump them. But know it’s okay if your new partner becomes friends with them too.
  4. Be prepared to not give up things, if they’re not willing to be respectful either.
  5. Take the time to sleep together, it’s so much better with the waiting.
  6. Saying that too, it’s okay to take you time to trust a new partner. My trust in people was broken after my last relationship. It took time to trust my new partner, even though nothing was his fault. You gotta heal yourself.

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Any advice readers?

The Writing World Tag

Can I just say a big Thank You to Life Lessons around the dinner table for tagging myself in this…I have absolutely enjoyed doing it, it’s really made me think! (I had SO much fun writing this up) Please see their questions and answers here:

https://lifelessonsaroundthedinnertable.wordpress.com/2018/05/30/the-writing-world-tag/

The Rules

  • Thank the person that tagged you and link to their website
  • Post the rules
  • Answer your tagger’s questions
  • Share your two favorite writing tips and where you got them from
  • Share two random story/WIP ideas you’ve never shared before (It would be cool to include covers, but you don’t have to) (And also they don’t have to be ideas you’re ever going to turn into anything)
  • But don’t spoil them for us 😉
  • Tag five people
  • Let the people you tag know that they have been tagged
  • Ask five questions
  • No, you can’t re-tag the person that tagged you

My Questions

  • If you could tell your younger writing self anything, what would it be?

JUST DO IT! Just start somewhere…DO IT BECAUSE YOU LOVE IT!

  • What was an early experience where you learned that language has power?

My Grandmother is a Librarian, now retired. When we were younger we use to go and visit her a lot and got involved in a lot of the Libraries children programs. I definitely learnt the power of language there. The power of good story telling.

  • What period of your life do you find you write about most often? (Childhood, adolescence, adult hood, young & golden years)

I write mostly, I think, YA mainly. I write more along, teenagers becoming young adults.

  • What is the most difficult part of writing for you?

I just don’t believe in myself enough. I’d be lying if I said that I didn’t want at least one writing of mine published. Then when I start writing and I feel like it’s silly. I think trying to compare myself to someone like JRR Tolkien does not help myself.

  • What inspired you to start your blog? 

If you are a frequent reader of mine you will know that I started my Blog because of a school project. We had to write up about two different social media type platforms that we have never used before. I just enjoyed it so much I’ve just kept it up.

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Share your two favorite writing tips and where you got them from.

  • Do not write unless you want too! There is nothing worse than trying to make yourself write. If you’re not feeling it, it’s just not going to happen. This is just a personal tip. Sometimes I feel like (especially if I’m not doing anything) that I should be writing. I always find that I get nowhere and even if I manage to write something, I usually rewrite that bit later.

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  • If I’m having a bit of writers block I watch everything and listen to what I consider to be fantasy. I find that this motivates myself. Even if I don’t end up writing, I definitely come up with ideas.

Share two random story/WIP ideas you’ve never shared before (It would be cool to include covers, but you don’t have to) (And also they don’t have to be ideas you’re ever going to turn into anything) 

I have actually been kind of working on the two below, it’s be great if they’d turn into something…But we’ll see!

  1. The first one I’ll let you know about is actually supposed to be like a television series. I was inspired by a role playing game I played years and years ago. I was a Sorceress, but we had elves and monsters and all sorts! I’ve been writing it like a cross over Lord of the Rings with the television series withX-Men Evolution. Of course though my character (the Sorceress with the pet Wolf) is the Rogue type character.
    I haven’t written anything for it for years though, but every now and then I’ll think of an episode idea.

    Xmen;_Evolution!
    Picture Courtsey of: http://x-men.wikia.com/wiki/X-Men:_Evolution
  2. The other was inspired by a computer game, but I’m writing a novel, that I used to play, also years ago, on a portable PlayStation portable hand player. That is now a huge game on the XBOX 1. It’s supposed to be kind of like I guess YA novel. I would love to publish it, but I don’t think I’m even half way through it.

Tag Five People – I will Tag five people, but if you want to do this one, please feel free!

  1. Musings from a Tangled Mind
  2. This is My Truth Now
  3. From Private to Public
  4. Where Words Daily Come Alive
  5. On Dragonfly Wings with Buttercup Tea

My Questions to you:

  1. What is the worst advice someone can give you when you’re in the middle of  writers block?
  2. Do you have a writers “set up”. Similar to a reading nook. Please describe.
  3. What (if anything) do you need to have around you to write?
  4. Are you inspired by other authors/writers? If yes, who and why?
  5. Writing wise, what is the most important lesson/s that you have learnt?

Clicks 2 – Self Business!

As you can see from my previous post (May Goals). I have decided that I am going to start at least researching about how I might be able to do this and start creating a small home business. I decided after initially being inspired by putting “Magic Monday” , which is one of my Blog categories) onto a jar for myself. Why not pursue this further? Using my own quotes and seeing if I can draw any kind of designs to come up with. Maybe place these on cushions and see what happens from there?

I have been able to find one good site so far:

https://candlemaking.com.au/

The only problem with this site, is that you can’t inscribe anything on the jars. However, I am sure I can find something that would allow me to do so. I have only just really started, so I have literally just been Googling everything at the moment. I would like some advice or some inspiration. Have any of you done this, or are currently doing something like this at the moment?

Ironically as well, this was my Horoscope for the week (Taurus)

So as you have probably heard by now, this is one of the biggest weeks of –arguably – your life! No kidding. This week sees the planet of revolution and rebellion, Uranus, bursting into your sign like a massive bolt of electricity that leaves every hair on your body standing on end.

So what do you have to look forward to? Well, change, awakenings and liberation, to name three things. It might be a bumpy ride but the shackles are falling away.

This is what I am achieving…Great advice!

It’s not about proving to the other person that you have moved on with your life…it’s about being at peace while moving on with your life. With Love, Dr. KL ❤ Author of “Every Day Isn’t Perfect”: amazon.com/author/iamklregister

via Moving On — Dr. K. L. Register

I have honestly been feeling the best that I have ever felt in such a long time. I’ve been a lot more social. I’ve been worrying less and living more…When I looked back they literally brought nothing to my life, because it was always about them…So you can’t miss what you never had truly,lol

“Stolen”

I saw something over the past week that has sort of bugged me a lot because it’s not just an single incident. It seems that when someone cheats and runs off with another person. People (mainly women it seems) tend to place the blame on the person that their partner cheated on them with. They were “stolen” or “taken” by that other person.

Now what got my attention was that someone posted a meme about how Blac Chyna exacted her revenge on Kylie Kardashain for stealing Tyga from her, by using Rob’s brother. This post isn’t not about that family, but about the situation in general. There were lots of reasons that it bothered for the list of reasons below.

  • No one can be stolen or taken from anyone unless they want too be. If they are that is called “kidnapping”. REPEAT.
  • Kylie was only 16/17 when she was first dating Tyga, which means that she was underage when they were first dating. So this “man” was stolen by a child. What a man! I can see why you’d what that back! (sarcasm intended).
  • Blac Chyna (if true) was trying to get back at Kylie, was attacking a child, instead of the “man” who LEFT her.
  • That whole family is a mess. Lot of insecurity there.

Apart from that crazy family my point is this. I get it’s easier to blame the other person who “took” your ex-partner from you. It’s easier to lash out at that person who is nothing to to you, then someone you probably still care about. The truth is, no one can be taken from a relationship unless it’s just something they want, for whatever reasons. It is also definitely not advisable to date that persons mentally unhealthy sibling.

(My personal view: On a completely different note, I think all Blac Chyna has done is made Tyga (who is a total loser to begin with) made him more thankful they are not together anymore? Revenge Porn is also illegal not matter what)

 

Girls Nights In

I would love to share ideas with you all, ladies and special ladies alike…What would your “dream girls night in” entail?

You seen it’s been a rough year for a lot of my girlfriends. I’m not talking about your usual break ups and cheating hearts. Too of my girls have had horrible health issues one found a huge cancer (which has now been taken out and they think they got it all). The other had a heart attack, both of these girls are younger than me.

So I have been thinking about having a ladies night! But having the night in, so we can just sit and chat and just have a bit of fun in a safe environment. I have a few ideas, but I would really love to share ideas around. I would also definitely have to have healthy snacks and such. We would probably watch Magic Mike *nods head*

Here are some of my ideas, please share your own ideas!

  • Everyone can wear their pyjamas if they so wish, or some chilled/relax clothing.
  • Thinking of some fun little accessories, too take selfies with clearly.
  • Disney,LoTR, Harry Potter and comedies playing in the background.
  • We HAVE to have healthy snacks and drinks.
  • Party bags with goodies.
  • Games…but what games?!
  • I will probably bring out some of my favourite plushies.

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Just walk away

I have usually gotten along better with guys than I do with girls. I don’t know if it’s less drama or they are appear more laid-back, but I had always gotten along better with guys…Until the last few years, where mainly the word S…E…X has gotten in the way, mainly theirs, lol…

I don’t know how, but I’ve been in the situation twice now, where I come along in a new group and think that I have made some new friends and they seem like a lot of fun. Then over the next couple of years, someone else has come along…You know more “exciting” than me, younger than me…I mean I think I look pretty good for 33. However, that’s when things change. I’m suddenly sitting at my birthday all alone, that was pretty horrible…Of course the girls don’t like me, one I have never met, the other I’ve never really hang out with. So over time you just lose “friends” and you don’t even know why…Other than they’re all a bunch of idiots.

The first girl I fought back against, because she was attacking me for no reason. Everything I said, everything I did was “wrong” and a reason to send me 4 page emails about how wrong I was. I’d wake up the next day and another “friend” would be gone. It was probably the most emotionally and mentally draining thing that has ever happened too me.

So, when it started happening again, I didn’t fight, I just walked away and it was probably the best thing that I have ever done for myself. No months of drama or how wrong I was, and I still lost friends and people still walked away.

It has been different this time…

People came back and I got unfriended by people who honestly, I don’t actually like that much too be honest. I stopped getting invited to their parties, but I had better ones to go to and had even better people to spend time with. I had more time to explore and discover where I live instead of going to the same parties, with the same people and the same dramas.

Do I wish that either party would apologise? Of course…The best advice I can give though, if you are in this situation, or something similar…Walk Away…

This applies to every single relationship in your life. Any relationship or any type of relationship, just walk away. There is a reason that this saying is a cliche…

If You Love Someone, Set Them Free. If They Come Back They’re Yours

It’s a true cliche, set them free, if they come back, they were always meant to be apart of your life. If they don’t, they just were not. It really is true and sometimes it can hurt and it can be frustrating because you can’t understand why. I’ve been there so many times “Why, what’s wrong with me?”. There is nothing wrong with you, as my Gran likes to say “They are just not part of your tribe”. It’s true…Most of the people I’ve lost during these situations, there are soooooooo boring, or annoying and they do the same dramas all the time. They just did not “interest” me, I guess you could say. I have never actually lost a really good friend.

Some of these people have come back into my life and they have seriously honestly missed me. The cliche is a cliche for a reason, even though it takes time. It might even take years. They do, the ones who matter, always do.

Walk Away

Have Faith 

Be Happy

And just keep being you

The Ever lasting Effect of an Empath

Over the weekend Safari Live had a very special fireside chat that was dedicated to the Queen that is the Leopardess Karula. It got me too thinking, about those things, people, animals, that leave us with an impression forever, even though those things that we’ve never actually met before. How do they affect us so much?

Take the situation with Karula, I’ve never actually physically seen her, not to face to face (not that I would have wanted too), but through a tv screen, yet whenever I see a picture of her or a screen shot I started getting emotional. Or take the Manchester bombings, I don’t even live in the same country, let alone in Manchester, yet the whole day I was crying. Even with people I dislike, or people who have done me wrong. I get upset for them when I hear something terrible has happened, I just cannot revel in their misery.

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(My super serious title is : The Moon Goddess Empath)

Any fellow Empaths in here?

I think that the issue I have most with being empathetic, is that unfortunately, I tend to “suck in” other people’s emotions and I have to constantly suck myself back out of situations before I am completely and utterly sucked in by the toxicity, and there is a lot of that out there!

So what as one empath to another, what suggestions that people who are empathetic, what direction, what suggestions can we make to one another to make our lives a little easier. It’s very hard to function in the world if we consistently let the world upset us. I have a few suggestions:

  • Make a commitment to yourself to take yourself off of all social media for at least once a day a week.
  • Eat and drink healthy…I know it may seem like a cliche, but I have taken out coffee recently and I have really noticed the difference.
  • On those days off from social media, fill your mind with something fulfilling, completely personal for you.
  • Understand that you do not have to go to any party or gathering, if you feel you don’t want too. Make sure though you do treat your mind instead!

One thing you should understand though is that being an Empath is not the same as having depression or a mental illness, that is a completely different thing. Although the two can overlap and correlate a lot.