What do you do when you don’t know what to do?

I am not going to even post screenshots from the transphobes that came on yesterday and just blatantly left the T out of LGB.

DO NOT GO ON TWITTER

I want to know how to help. I can tell the transphobes why they wrong, they wont listen, but it helps me feel better.

I want to know how I can help. #ciswiththeT If you want me to shut up. If you want me to say to celebrities like Debra Meadon, Jamie Lee Curits, Bette Milder, cis woman to cis woman. What can I do, to make it more bearable. The #LGBTQIA do not deserve this.

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Gonna do it…lol

This doesn’t really have anything to do with the post from the other day, lol. I guess though, in some ways it does as well.

We ALL know how Trump says things that we know are not true, just like the same with Rowling. You know, at least Trump is honesty with his badness. Like he’s not saying “Oh, I didn’t mean it like” Which Rowling does ALL the time. Just like Trump though, she also acts. How can I explain it. Trump Supporters will always overwhelming say that they want Democracy. However, it’s not actual Democracy, it’s just Trump type Democracy, it’s not true Democracy.

Rowling is kind of the same, in that whatever she says, her cults believes. She’s writing a book that’s about an author, whose criticised online and then get murdered … But she wants us to believe that it has nothing to do with the trans outrage.

How STUPID, does she think we are? That’s the dangerous thing about both Trump and Rowling, they both know that their followers will believe ANYTHING they say. So Rowling says “Oh, it has nothing to do with what’s happening now” Her cult followers will say to us “But she said it had nothing to do with it”

Oh, you just “came up” with that idea all by yourself then?

The reason for my blog though?

When I first saw that news article, I got SO angry. For those who don’t follow the anti-trans ideology, you know, be human. know perfectly well what she’s trying to do. My idea? Too write to bookshops in my state, and not ask them to ban it. That would never happen anyway. Just to consider though, maybe not advertising it *that* much? The book world deserves better than Rowling, it just truly does.

There are so many rumours that she stole a lot of HP from another author. Which is probably why she always “gives in” too fan theories. Dumbledore being gay, never mentioned in her books. That only came about when it became a popular idea. It’s also why I absolutely think she purposely wrote the Goblins working in a bank, so not original.

I will absolutely be polite and I am also going to present it with some facts. I’ve just never done something like this before. I would LOVE some advice, if anyone here has ever done something like that before?

I also only found today that the author who is murdered, is accused of being transphobic.

Thursday Theories – How to help!

Remember that Love Wins…Always, and it shall help guide.

If you see someone trying to to do the right thing, and they are getting “clobbered” for it. Give them a like ❤ No comment needed. It’s a people thing.

Even if you can’t donate, or spend money. Make sure you’re always keeping up to date and listening out on how you can help.

Fundraising for Transgender support – Chuffed

Stonewall News – United Kingdom

Social media gives support to LGBTQ youth when in-person communities are lacking ; The Conversation Published: September 28, 2021 9.57pm AEST Linda Charmaraman Director of Youth, Media & Wellbeing Research Lab, Wellesley College

Follow LGBTQIA+ Supportive media accounts

Trans Writes – Twitter

proud to be – Headspace

GayPrideCalendar.com

https://www.openlynews.com/

If you don’t understand something, ask, with care. Personally I didn’t understand about they/them, but you ask and you learn. And don’t ask because you’re going to use it to harm.

I think the whole thing is, is that it’s really not that hard to understand. Just be kind. Don’t judge straight away. I know that it is only human, but you know how to catch yourself.

That heatwave!

Well, as an Australia, I think I am qualified to talk about this.

I’ve been noticing that a lot of people overseas, are talking about heat waves. Aren’t they just the WORST! I don’t mind Summer, but those heat waves are worse than cold. I can’t write about snow, my state doesn’t get it. Or at least, I’ve never seen it.

I’ve got some advice for you. Mainly, how I “cope” with out putting on an air-conditioner. My mum likes to say that we don’t work full time to not have the heating/air con on. But it’s also considering your bills and your energy use. Which, I’m sure you all know, can end up costing a lot. Then you start thinking “Well I didn’t really need it on then”.

Writing about air conditioning though, DON’T put it on to the point of freezing in your house either. Put it in on so your cool, not freezing. The amount of times my body has nearly collapsed, from going to somewhere freezing in an office building, to outside into a heat wave and my body cannot cope with that well. I don’t know why people do that either, it will make you sick. You’re putting your body into instant extremes.

Here is my list:

• Prepare for a blackout. – Put some those ice blocks you put into picnic baskets, wrapping them up in a tea towel can help you feel cool. Make sure all torches are charged. If you prefer candles, make sure you know where the candles and matches are. Considering purchasing “light candles” the ones where you put batteries in and you can turn them of and off, different colours with a controller.
• If you’re by yourself, close all the curtains/blinds. Anything that lets sun in, cover it up. Generally during the day you can still get enough light into a house to see, you just want to stop a lot of sun coming in.
• Have a cool shower before bed. Again, not freezing, just enough to cool down.
• Sometimes, I will dampen or wet a hand towel and put it on my head. I find that if I’m cool as I fall asleep, I will fall asleep well.
• See how you can put a timer on your air con or fan. It’s the same with the damp towel, if I’m cool as I fall asleep, I will fall asleep. Sometimes I find that just having air moving helps as well.
• If you’re in your house, go nude! If you can only do it when you’re by yourself, go nude then.
• Buy a big dress or also known as a “moo moo” to wear around the house. If you wear it out as well, cool. Just something big and breezy around the house, can make you feel cool. But if you have to answer the door, then you’ve got something to wear.
• Drinking is a bit harder, because people love their coffees and cups of tea. So we forget to drink water. I’ve also started to see that a lot of people don’t “like” water. But we need it. So flavour up your water. There are lot of ways to infuse your water with fruits, and all sorts of things. So no excuse to not drink water!
• Talking about water, make sure you always have at least two bottles of water in the fridge. I don’t care if you infuse with them with something. But if you have a gathering, you will NEED water. Doesn’t matter if you don’t like water, I can guarantee a majority of your guests will drink water. Also though, when you open the fridge, that will remind you to drink water.

Thursday Talking – Everything

Where do I even begin with this post? The last 24 hours have been…Well, easy to say a emotional rollercoaster, of very high and very low.

Woke up too hear that “Governor” Greg Abbott has made it so any parent who SUPPORTS their trans child, it’s automatically considered abuse. He is also making it so any teacher, Doctor, you know person suppose to help protect you, HAS to “out” that child.

Later in the day, I heard that Clive Palmer has been taken to hospital with COVID like symptoms. Now for pretty much anyone to get COVID in Australia, the irony (or karma) is so weird with this one. Think of Clive Palmer like Texas’s Ted Cruz. His “party” and himself, have denied that COVID is a real thing. It’ll be interesting to see if he changes from this, though I doubt it.

Too even later in the day, Russia has invaded the Ukraine.

Even a bit later, I got a package that I have been looking forward too.

I mean, when do the emotions end?

The best piece of advice that I can offer is to simply, come off the grid. Even just for a couple of days, rejuvenate and refresh. Remind yourself/ourselves what we’re fighting, remind ourselves what we should be grateful for. Just shake it out and shake it off.

Ghosting

Ghosting in the dating world, is a really sneaky and cowardly thing to do someone. I should know, the last guy I dated before my current partner, did it too me.

Ghosting someone in the dating world, usually means, that one of the parties just cuts off all contact with someone. Usually the people have known each other for a while, or at least, early dating for a while. It’s not like a couple of dates and that’s it. That’s ghosting someone is so frowned upon.

What made me unhappy about my particular situation, was that I had been friends with the guy for a long time, but because of the age gap (me being older) I kept saying no. Then within a month of me saying “Okay, let’s give this a go”. He ghosted me one weekend. It was the first time I had felt old and used, and an old fool. Funnily enough, a co-worker, younger than me was going through the exact same thing. She had known a guy for ages, kept saying no, she didn’t want anything serious. Within a month of them starting to date, he ghosted her too!

No one really knows why someone ghosts someone, there’s always a different reason. Sometimes it’s just the thrill of the chase, they actually met someone else and don’t want the drama. Sometimes it is just genuinely because they’re not interested anymore.

I can’t answer for my “guy”, there have been some theories. That I’ve even talked about with my current partner. Mainly because I want him to answer for all men (hahaha) totally kidding. He’s never ghosted someone before and he finds that behaviour odd, lol. It really is. It was just a coincidence that myself and another girl were going through it together.

Here are the good things about being ghosted:

EVERYTHING

It might hurt and they wont ever tell you what really happened. I still honestly believe that I was a bet, between him and his friends. YOU ARE LUCKY!

Get yourself a partner that will think it’s odd to ghost someone.

Remind yourself, that you have escaped a total and utter cowardly lion. Because you really have. What kind of person chases someone for months, sometimes nearly a year. Gets who they actually want, and I don’t mind humbling saying a lot want me, same with this other girl too. Just to essentially run away after a month?

Single in a small city

For those who have been following my Blog for a while now, have probably seen my Category called Single in a small city. Now, the funny story behind this catgeory, is that I created it and the next month I ended up being in the relationship that I am in now, for 7 + years. It felt a little odd to be talking about dating, when I am off the market.

For the longest time, I didn’t know what to do with that Category, and now I think I know what to do!

I’m going to give out dating advice, dating advice and also how to help handle breakups. Sometimes, people need just the cold hard “yes or no”. Which is funny, because I’ve only had (have to count this on fingers) 4 real relationship’s in my life. Watching other people though, and having a now ex-friend obsessed with being in relationships, she was the reason I did not want to be in one, lol. Sometimes being an outsider, you can see things, that others cannot.

So I am changing the name of that Category =D Have a look … I don’t actually like the name, but it’s all I could honestly think of, without sounding totally creepy, lol

Wednesday Wives Tales

This isn’t going to become a regular blog post. One of the reasons I love blogging is because of the advice, the information that I learn about every single day. What I would love to know about, how many of you have “old wives tales”, or general advice that you think would be helpful?

Can be anything:

A cold/flu remedy

Help with gut issues?

Sleeping remedies?

How to block a writers block?

Sage Advice, that works for you.

The Blogger Recognition Award

I have been nominated by the lovely lauravent69 for a Blogger Recognition Award.

The Blogger Recognition Award is an online award given by bloggers to other bloggers as a way to recognize the efforts they put into their site.

AWARD RULES:

• Thank the nominator, and publish a post on your blog about receiving the Blogger Recognition Award. Make sure to provide a link to the nominator’s blog in your post.
• Give a brief story of how your blog started.
• Give two pieces of advice to new bloggers.
• Nominate 10-15 other bloggers for this award, and inform them of their nomination.

Thank the nominator

I was nominated by the very awesome LauraVent69. Please pop over and have a look her. Not only are her blogs funny but they are also extremely entertaining. I especially, have been enjoying her post about colours.

How I got started

If you’ve been following my blog for a while now. You probably know that I started this whole blog has a school project. I was doing my Library course and one of our electives was to learn about social media. So I thought it was an important class, because I did notice that a lot of Libraries are starting to get in on the whole social media thing. One of the classes we were learning about, was media platforms that we had never heard of before, and WordPress happened to be one of them.

Two pieces of advice for new bloggers

1 – I think the first bit of advice, is kind of obvious. Write for you. I know it’s a “duh” thing, but being on Quora and watching the amount of people who want to start a Blog to make money. It’s not a good place to start. I only know of a couple of Bloggers on WordPress who are making money, and it took them a while. If it happens, that is beyond fantastic. But ultimately do it for you and because you want to be here and because YOU want to do it.

2 – While I don’t think you need to stick to a specific theme to stick too 100% all the time. It’s good to have something to think about and write as a constant. The hardest thing can be figuring out what that is. As I mention above, I started this for a project for school. So when I started I was doing a Library Diploma and so thought that writing about Libraries would be a great Blog to blog about. As time has gone on, it’s changed a bit. My blog is now, for me, about learning, about…well everything. “Learn something new every day”. Learning and Understanding. Two important tools for any Librarian to have. I love trying to understand things and people, so that way I can understand where people are coming from. I love learning about new ways to cope with things, like anxiety and mental health.

MY NOMINEES:

Last night I was going to finish off this blog, but I got called into work and am now work crazy hours this week. Meaning, more hours than I’ve been getting lately. So I don’t really have the time to nominate so many people. I’ll try a couple though:

• Philosophy through Photography I would love to see you do this with photos!
• Kira Moore’s Closet
• Barclay Dave
• Amanda Cade

 

Think before you “Do”

I still think it’s funny about my category “Single in a small city”. For those who don’t know, when I created the category “Single in a small city”. I think literally, I went on a date the next week and that was 4 years ago and I’m still with the same guy. So a couple of months later I felt a little like a fraud writing about being single, when I wasn’t anymore. It felt a little rude, writing about being single, when I was not.

Before getting into a relationship, here’s what to consider.

1. Probably the most important thing to do before you get into a relationship. LOVE YOURSELF…In every way possible!
2. I know it sounds unromantic, but make sure you can get out if you get in.
3. Never lose your friendship with your friends. Keep them around. Don’t dump them. But know it’s okay if your new partner becomes friends with them too.
4. Be prepared to not give up things, if they’re not willing to be respectful either.
5. Take the time to sleep together, it’s so much better with the waiting.
6. Saying that too, it’s okay to take you time to trust a new partner. My trust in people was broken after my last relationship. It took time to trust my new partner, even though nothing was his fault. You gotta heal yourself.

Any advice readers?