This is also another run off of yesterdays post “The enemy’s territory”.
There are a lot of things I don’t understand about the human race, and one thing in particular grates on me as I get older. There’s a person I am close too, who is an alcoholic, wont admit it, and that’s not even the problem with them. This person is a family member and I can completely understand the whole not admitting to being an alcoholic.
What I don’t get is the abuse, and never acknowledging it. Yet, at the same time. Being proud when they stand up to people they don’t like. This person refused to go to a family Christmas because their other twin sibling called them “fat”. But yet, they abuse the shit out of me, my brother and my Mum, but we STILL are required to show them respect and talk to them. If we don’t respond the way they want either, then we get abused like they’re the victims and they can’t seem to understand why we then don’t want talk to them after.
The most recent incident I said they’d have to wait one more day for me to get an answer about if someone can take me way out my way to meet up with them. Because the person who I had to ask to take me, was sick. I knew even in a good mood, they’d probably say no. I then apparently had 30 minutes to ask them and of course the only answer was going to be “no” So then the abuse started.
Over the years, I put up with it, but lately I’ve been growing extremely tired of it. I am not doing this the rest of my life. Every time it happens, I have to turn my phone off, but it gets ridiculous. This person demands respect, but gives none back. Unless they’re deleting their messages to us while they’re drunk…again…Then how can they NOT see it? They blame my Mum for their bad relationship with my brother and I. Yet, it’s not okay to call them fat? Then they’re going on a cruise with this person who called them fat, but we keep getting abused? They had to cancel what they wanted to do for their birthday to satisfy the person calling them fat…But do you think they abuse their family member…Nope, just the people who were going to offer to get them a room for the night.
How does someone justify this in their head?
The whole reason they keep having problems is because they keep being kind to the people who are horrible to them, but are nasty to the people who are kind to them? Maybe that’s their problem?