2014

2014I saw this picture and I couldn’t resist posting it since I have been let down this year, my past relationship and this “friend” of mine has decided to just stab me in the back…I will say it…Bitch!…BUT I had some really fantastic news today and I passed a really hard subject for me and I have decided to go to the online dating sites…I will NOT let two-face people who can’t take care of themselves, bring me down any-more!

 

The Single Woman’s 30-Day Blogging Challenge! Day 1 – “7”

Technically I know it’s only been 5 days since New Years (still can’t believe that!) but it’s also Sunday, which is the end of a calendar week and so far so good!

So as I mentioned at the end of last year I would be taking up a Blogging challenge! It’s called “The Single Woman’s 30-Day Blogging Challenge” and would post a weekly blog with the answers in groups of seven and here is the first group:

1)      Your response to everyone’s favorite question: “And why are YOU still single?”

Well my first response is I normally laugh that question off with “I choose jerks and bad guys all the time” When I really look into it though, that has a bit to do with it. Considering I’m friends with all of my ex’s except for one (because he really is a jerk), they cannot be that bad. It’s a horrible question because if I knew that answer to that I probably wouldn’t be single to begin with!

I don’t think I am making completely horrible decisions with the guys I’m picking. I know what I want and at the time these guys genuinely seem like they can provide it. I have talked about marriage and kids with all three of my relationships and I didn’t like bringing up the conversation. So I always felt like they did really want it, because they were thinking of it. The hardest relationship was my first, which was long distance, because I was too young to understand what a great relationship we had. With neither of us willingly to make that sacrifice, that was it. It’s hard sometimes because I still think he very easily could have been the one.  I have actually told him that he was my favourite so far.

I enjoy being single and I think that’s a majority of my problem.  I remember with one relationship where I actually use to tell my boyfriend not to come with me, because I knew he wouldn’t enjoy and he would sulk and that would upset me. It ended being so bad I still wish I had spent one New Year without him! I think when I meet the one where I enjoy being in a relationship more than being single that’ll be the one for me!

2)      Describe a moment or a day when being single really sucked.

Like the author who created this blog challenge, I 99% of the time LOVE my single life. There’s just this one moment where I feel it really sucks to be single. Those nights where the thunderstorm is just perfect, perfect for snuggling and having that lazy sleepy conversation that is full of your fears as you both can’t sleep from the thunderstorm. That conversation where nothing necessarily “happens” but just that moment reminds me that I’m single.

3)      Describe a moment or a day when being single was really awesome.

I feel like there have just been so many moments! I am one of those girls that enjoys being single and I have no problem with it. A few moments that stand out though are my formals, I actually was single for both. Most of the couples ended up in fights, the girls wanted to dance and the guys didn’t, the girls got mad at their boyfriend for daring to look at another girl and there was me running about, dancing, eating, jumping in to take photos and dancing again. Even this past new year’s, I was salsa dancing all night with gorgeous men…I have never salsa danced before!

4)      Your biggest fear as a single person.

My biggest fear is honestly when I got out, especially when it’s in the city or downtown. That is mainly because though I am a tiny person and I know that if someone wants to hurt me that they really can if they want too. I am not going to lie when I say that this is one of the reasons I like guys with the big arms. They give the impression that they can protect me!

5)      The biggest misconception you think people have about single life

That because I’m single that I MUST want to date…This is not true at all! Yes, I would love to find a companion to be with and I have no doubt that when I find “the one” I’ll know and that everything will be fine. If I was to date someone now, especially with everything that I’ve been through, it would completely end in disaster. I remember when I was about 24 and I went to a psychics show weekend and I had a reading done on myself and they said that I would meet the ‘one’ in my early thirties and thinking at the time “That’s so far away!” I’ve been told that two by two different psychics!…Now being only being a few months away from 30, this looks like the reality…I will never doubt a psychic ever again! lol

6)      Sound off on the quote “Every woman has the exact love life she wants”

I think this is debatable. Mainly because I didn’t go into a relationship hoping that it would end, I wanted them all to last and they all ended for different reasons. Sometimes you love someone and they just don’t love you anymore, sometimes you realise the relationship is going to go nowhere even if you want it too. For myself, personally, I would have done anything to keep my first relationship and we are still good friends even today! It was pretty much impossible to be together anymore, so that is not exactly what I want…Then again you could debate that is exactly what I wanted, to end it.

How many times have you liked someone and they just don’t like you back? That’s not exactly what I want!

7)      Where you are in your life vs. where you thought you would be at this point

Absolutely not! Ten years ago I and probably everyone else around me thought I’d be the first to get married, to have kids…and now I’m the last in my family to do so! I didn’t know what I wanted to do and now I want to do nothing else but work in a Library, anything else would feel like a drain.

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Things to leave behind in 2013

The Single Woman 2013, Single is the new fabulous!

So I’ve heard something really interesting! This year instead of making New Year resolutions I am making a list of “Things I am leaving behind in 2013”

I came up with 14 ideas to go with 2014

  1. Stop feeling guilty that I don’t want to date! Being single doesn’t mean I have to be in a relationship.
  2. Quit spending money on people who don’t actually really do anything for me!
  3. Instead of reacting think more carefully about posting Facebook statuses.
  4. Aim for 90% positive statuses! Limit to one “emo” post a month
  5. Games Workshop, lol
  6. Not dressing up because I’m worried people will think I’m too “sexy”.
  7. Not seeing a movie I want too because I wasn’t invited in a ‘group’ situation…Go by myself and make it a “Date Day” just like I did before Facebook came along! Lol
  8. Spend less time on Facebook…I don’t know why I do so often, I always feel better when I’m off of it…Once a week I will spend up to 24 hours off of Facebook.
  9. Hanging out with people who have ‘group mentalities’ and hang out more with those to seem to have individual thoughts!
  10. People who can’t publicly acknowledge my existence or keep asking other people for opinions of me and not mine own and then call me “Friend”.
  11. Fake people!
  12. Joblessness!
  13. Feeling ashamed of what I enjoy liking Facebook, I love Cosplay it’s brought a lot of positive things into my life.
  14. Settling for less!