…When your mind goes completely blank on an ex’s name?
I like watching the Daily Pop when I can…I just enjoy the hosts, they seem like pretty alright people. For being in the entertainment industry they seem to be pretty both sided and that’s gotta be tough.
One of the topics they were talking about was an interview with A-Rod whose dating J-Lo and how he said it was definitely different from their other relationships. Which then opened up a conversation about love and how each relationship will be different.
I have to agree with the statement that especially in the beginning of a relationship, a lot of the times we feel “this is different” “this is it” and then over time it just kind of disappears…But I want to talk about love for a little bit. I’ve been in love probably three times. I’ve loved more about that. It’s an interesting though to be in love someone and just kind of love someone.
The most truest thing is though every love is different. I actually had an ex’s new girlfriend ask me if I thought he was ever going to grow up and she was thinking of breaking up with him. I explained to her that every relationship is different, how he was with me, will be different how he was with her. They’re married now, so I figure they worked it out,lol.
- People have different life experiences.
- People grow differently.
I found something completely amazing for all the single people.
Oh my goodness it has so amazing things in it as well. It’s one of those box things that seem to be huge these days. Where you pay a certain amount of month, either as a one off or a subscription, depending on what you want. Then once a month you get a box full of goodies, and they are usually pretty good.
I happened to find the Single Swag through a blog that I used to read a lot, but stopped reading after the writer seemed to almost attack their readers. This was because she had just finally decided to break away from her ex…finally…and then he was nice to her nice, just the once, and she wanted to go back. A lot of people were asking “Why, why would you do that” and I think she felt kind of attacked by it (even though I wanted to know why as well).
I decided to see where she was at as I went to delete a lot of things from my computer and I must have saved a blog of hers, because I went back and found it again. Much better than before and that’s how I found “single swag”. The Single Woman Blog – Not Gonna Happen
I saw something over the past week that has sort of bugged me a lot because it’s not just an single incident. It seems that when someone cheats and runs off with another person. People (mainly women it seems) tend to place the blame on the person that their partner cheated on them with. They were “stolen” or “taken” by that other person.
Now what got my attention was that someone posted a meme about how Blac Chyna exacted her revenge on Kylie Kardashain for stealing Tyga from her, by using Rob’s brother. This post isn’t not about that family, but about the situation in general. There were lots of reasons that it bothered for the list of reasons below.
- No one can be stolen or taken from anyone unless they want too be. If they are that is called “kidnapping”. REPEAT.
- Kylie was only 16/17 when she was first dating Tyga, which means that she was underage when they were first dating. So this “man” was stolen by a child. What a man! I can see why you’d what that back! (sarcasm intended).
- Blac Chyna (if true) was trying to get back at Kylie, was attacking a child, instead of the “man” who LEFT her.
- That whole family is a mess. Lot of insecurity there.
Apart from that crazy family my point is this. I get it’s easier to blame the other person who “took” your ex-partner from you. It’s easier to lash out at that person who is nothing to to you, then someone you probably still care about. The truth is, no one can be taken from a relationship unless it’s just something they want, for whatever reasons. It is also definitely not advisable to date that persons mentally unhealthy sibling.
(My personal view: On a completely different note, I think all Blac Chyna has done is made Tyga (who is a total loser to begin with) made him more thankful they are not together anymore? Revenge Porn is also illegal not matter what)
I know I’ve written many times before about the weird and wild world of online dating. I’ve written about the “stranger danger” Spidey sense that hits when you decide to meet a stranger in person for the first time. I’ve written about the unflattering photos of men way past their prime flaunting their topless torsos […]
Can I just begin this by saying that I feel really bad that I don’t pay much attention to this category. I created the “Single in a small city”category and then about a month later I met my now partner of roughly over two years. I always feel funny about writing being single in any form, when I’m not. However, I still love hearing about other people’s dating stories and I absolutely adore the tv show “First Dates” It’s hilarious! I think that I’ve only be right about one couple so far and I so happy for them that they were still dating after the show.
The above post is from Musings from a Tangled Mind and it’s really hilarious post, it is really great and shows what kind of odd balls there are still out there. Online dating seems to be the thing to do these days.
I met my current partner through online dating and it worked for me. I think it worked for me, I think though that it worked for me because I was “sensible” about it. I met him for the first time in a public place, I made sure I actually had an excuse to leave (if it was turning out to be horrible) and never gave out any personal information!
However, my current partner was not the first person that I met on a date from online dating, and I actually didn’t want to meet the guy. It was more at my mother’s instance. Always listen to your gut instincts! On the one and only date I went on with the other guy, it was really uncomfortable. I already didn’t want to meet him before the date. He insisted on paying for my dinner, but he kept saying how he did it. Then he insisted on dropping me off home, I was not about to let him know where I lived! Then when I convinced him to not drop me home, he left me outside by myself, on a dark street, while I waited for a taxi.
I am such an odd person, I feel like I have such a different view on life and how I view certain situations. I’m just going to have too say that I have been cheated on in pretty much every single relationship I’ve ever been in. I don’t understand it, what I don’t actually understand is why cheat when you can break up with me? I have never been married, I don’t have kids with any of these people, so why didn’t they just leave?
That’s not what my weird view of life is about though, I’m sure lots of people think that “Why didn’t they just leave”.
What I don’t do, I have never blamed the other person who cheated with my partner. I have had quiet a few of these ladies come to me after my break ups. Mainly, I think it’s because they thought when my ex and I had broken up, they were just going to jump into a relationship with my ex. When that didn’t happen, they thought coming to me would do something, I’m not exactly sure what. I was always thought it was an odd thing to do because why do these people think my ex’s respected me enough to listen to me, when they had cheated on me, and didn’t break up with me instead. That’s not respectful, they didn’t respect me, clearly. They’re not going to listen to me now.
I have always felt though, it’s not the “other persons” job to respect me and protect me and take care of my heart, that is 100% my partners job. Even if they actually know about me, it’s still not their job. They don’t know me, they may know of my existence, but they don’t KNOW me, they owe me absolutely nothing.
I’ve been tempted in the past and I don’t think a lot of people would have blamed me, and I’m like 99% sure the other person would have been up for it. I still didn’t do it though. I didn’t do it for me, I didn’t do it for my partner at the time. I realised something was wrong and I tried to fix it. My partner then continued to cheat on me, or tried too (that’s a whole other story for another day) and we broke up. I can look myself in the face/mirror though and be proud and happy with myself. It also gave me a huge amount of respect for the person I wanted to cheated with, since they didn’t do anything either. In all honestly as well, until I had met my current partner I always had a little “What if”
The only time I would ever blame the “other person” is if they were a good friend or a family member, that’s it.
I had an interesting conversation with a friend over the weekend and it made me think how people will view grudges differently, depending on which side you are on That’s not too say that everyone is like this, after all we all experience things in different ways.
Let me explain…
Very recently both my friend and I both had people from our past that sent us friends on request on Facebook. Both people had been very cruel to both of us, for no good reasons. They both sent us a friends request with no message, apology or reasons why they felt like we should be “Facebook friends” and we both said no. One of us then heard about how their ex-friend was telling everybody how my friend was holding onto a grudge, and I was told “it’s in the past, why can’t I just let it go”.
I also have been in a situation where someone who used to bully me in primary school, wrote a message to me on Facebook and apologised. I accepted their friends request and I do not have one single regret.
I am a big believer in letting things go and forgiving people…not for them, but for yourself. Both of us can honestly say that we hold no grudge or even ill-will towards these people. We just don’t think we have to be friends with everybody. Clearly, the fact also that these people can’t even understand and instead of sending us a message to ask us “Why”, they decided to talk about it with everybody else, except for us. Which to both of us, shows us that really nothing has changed.
So, how about yourself, do you hold onto grudges?Are you good at letting things go? Do you believe some people will just never change? Have you ever been in a similar situation and what did you do?