Simply put…

So I loved this article…I have known both the good man and the nice guy. I just kept…

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I actually think this can be related to women too. When I think about it a “nice” woman and a “good” woman, can be related to this as well. I guess it’s all about being a “nice” human being and a “good” one.

“Nice Guys aren’t always Good Men, Learn the difference.”

This might be why you’re single

I saw this posted by someone whose being in disastrous relationship after disastrous relationship. It clicked in my head…You know this is probably why you are single, right?

Cary Grant

Now one this person, has done nothing but date guys like Cary Grant, and is still single. Two, Cary Grant was married at LEAST 5 – 6 times. So even if you “scored” someone like Cary Grant, chances he’d cheat and leave you.
Thirdly, this person is supposedly good friends with drag queens?
Fourthly, did not realise that clothes made the man?

I am so over these “memes”.

Summer lovin, had me a blast…

Well it’s actually Winter in Australia right now. But the sentiment behind this post is the same thing. What I have to write today is a very simple message.

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I know it’s hard during Summer and Winter to see happy couples out and about. Or during Winter to see couples all nice and cuddly cosy together. But just remember that at all times of the year, 24/7, it is better to be alone, than to be in an abusive relationship. Without a single doubt. I’ve seen relationship after relationship of people who are just in relationships to be in one. You end off being bruised more physically and emotionally than it’s worth.

 

Good Guys and Good Girls

Do you ever hear…(or get sick of hearing) girls/guys always say that they want to date a “nice guy/girl” like them, but they always end up jerks? Except you know that, very rarely, these self-proclaimed “good guys and girls” very rarely are actually what they say they are?

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I was inspired to write this post after seeing an article about one the most recent MAFs “brides” claiming that she was getting all these guys attentions…and you know what? I believe her. While in the show this particular “Bride” was trying to hook up with every other husband, it seemed, but her own. When she finally decided on one guy, he had no idea what had been happening. After leaving the show, seeing the reunion and seeing her do what she did and that he wasn’t her first or second choice, but third…They split up.

Now she’s saying she can’t trust him…Don’t actually know why…But she has been playing the victim ever since.

Now you may be thinking “Why on earth would you believe that guys would be interested in her?” Because I have gone through this situation myself.

I am an actual “good girl”. I know this because I don’t lie, cheat, back-stab and make other people endure unnecessary evil or unkindness. I also don’t go around bragging about these things, because others can see it in my actions. However, I always seem to encounter girls who have no problem doing these things, but the self proclaimed “good guys” worship them.

One very public shaming incident for something I did not even do wrong, was by “good guys”. The story went like this:

I had been out of a rotten relationship for a few months, not abusive, just “rotten”. The only thing was we had mutual friends (mainly guys) before I started dating him, and had made more after too. So the few months after we had broken up, I kept being asked out by his other friends. This started to increase after he started dating someone else. I found out people were asking him if it was okay, which honestly made me angry. I do not need my ex boyfriends permission. Maybe if they had asked me first…Anyway, I digress.

So at that time I legitimately did not want to date anyone. Not wanting to date, does not automatically mean I don’t want to be flirted with or “play” a bit. There were these two guys, one was a fantastic flirt and I really enjoyed it and we didn’t want to date each other. The other wanted my ex’s permission, kept asking me out and thought the way to my heart was to bash him behind his back. I may not like someone, but I don’t think it’s right to bash them behind their backs. You know what that makes me think? I now know why my ex, is the way he is. Because you think he’s horrible too, but you say nothing to him about his behavior! This particular ex was dumb and relied on the approval of others. If you say nothing to him, nothing changes.

Through the grapevine I found out my ex had said that I would never do anything with the guy I was flirting with…Well, i was going to prove him wrong! So I sorta had a one night stand. By sorta, we started but I realised I was not attracted to this guy at all. It was all wrong, so I asked him to stop and he did…Lucky for his “good guy” friends.

I kid you not…maybe two days later I get tagged in a meme “Why do girls always complain that there are no good guys and then date jerks”. You can only begin to imagine my anger. I had strange guys, who I don’t even know making comments like “How does the burn feel”. These days I would say “What burn? In order for a burn, the burn has to have some ring of truth to it”. But I was shocked!

So not only did I make a pledge then and there to never date anyone from that group (you’ll be happy to know that I never did). But it set in motion to prove their hypocrisy to me even more.

Then “Lisa” came into the group (don’t know why Lisa) She slept with a married man, she’s been engaged twice, clearly using them while the married man was married. Then he came back, she got engaged again, she’s split up half the group. He own brother made a comment to me about her…But, she’s worshiped…By the exact same “good guys” who burned/did not burn me calling themselves good guys in the same sentence.

I have a one night stand when I’m single, with a single guy and I’m a bad person. Lisa comes along, sleeps with a married man, uses the rest, splits up the group, her own brother is making is comments…Oh did I forget to mention, it was her brother that introduced her to the group. So now he can’t speak to friends, because of her….But I get told I should be more like her? I see not a single comment about her “behaviour”.

*I only have one sentence and Lisa has a whole paragraph*

So even if I hadn’t of decided to not date anyone from that group when they did what they did too me. I certainly would have done it after that! After a few months of it, I started to take myself out of that group. Yet, I would be willing to bet that they are sitting there still saying they’re “good guys”.

What I’m trying to say is this…

People need to stop with the whole “I am a good guy/girl” Chances are if you are constantly having to tell people, you’re probably not. It’s like when guys buy those stupid big cars (or obsessions with guns). We know what you’re trying to say, but we know it’s not true.

 

 

Think before you “Do”

I still think it’s funny about my category “Single in a small city”. For those who don’t know, when I created the category “Single in a small city”. I think literally, I went on a date the next week and that was 4 years ago and I’m still with the same guy. So a couple of months later I felt a little like a fraud writing about being single, when I wasn’t anymore. It felt a little rude, writing about being single, when I was not.

Before getting into a relationship, here’s what to consider.

  1. Probably the most important thing to do before you get into a relationship. LOVE YOURSELF…In every way possible!
  2. I know it sounds unromantic, but make sure you can get out if you get in.
  3. Never lose your friendship with your friends. Keep them around. Don’t dump them. But know it’s okay if your new partner becomes friends with them too.
  4. Be prepared to not give up things, if they’re not willing to be respectful either.
  5. Take the time to sleep together, it’s so much better with the waiting.
  6. Saying that too, it’s okay to take you time to trust a new partner. My trust in people was broken after my last relationship. It took time to trust my new partner, even though nothing was his fault. You gotta heal yourself.

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Any advice readers?

Sync Up!

I’ve this little notebook in my bag, and I write notes in it (duh,lol) Usually it’ll be a sentence or a quote for a Blog post, but for whatever reasons I cannot get to a computer at the time. Then at least I have some sort of recollection later on when I read through it, and this was one of them.

I was thinking about when you have a partner and you’ve been together for a while, do you take “advantage” that they should just “get you”? I realised this the other day, when it came to some cleaning of the clothes. I thought that my partner would still want his new white tops washed separately from the rest, but he didn’t. So I ended up not being able wash my red tops, then I got called into work and had to wear this old tight fitted one. I was not impressed,lol.

How often do we just take for granted, that our partners…Just cannot read our minds? That we assume “Well, we’ve done this a hundred times before” and just go ahead, when maybe our partners don’t want too?

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Let me just set my scene for ya: I’m sitting on my bed putting together the flood of thoughts running through my head for this specific blog post. I just finished cleaning my house (and I mean booooy did I clean….like actually cleaned…not just a liiiiittle….I went all out ya’ll….I’m adulting out here). I baked […]

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*A lovely beautifully written piece to love yourself even when your single! Ain’t nothing wrong with that!*