Thursday Theories – Changing my Religion

I was inspired to write about this after watching a documentary about Nefertiti. I know a bit about Ancient Egyptian Rulers, however, how there Religion worked, I’m not “hot” on.

I was mainly watching it to see if they found Nefertiti, which before I got tot the end of it, I thought to myself “Well that’d be all over the news”. So ultimately they did not find her…Yet.

What fascinated myself though, was under her and her husbands (Akhenaten) rule, they changed the whole Egyptian religion. From worshipping a number of Gods, like the Ancient Greeks and Rome, to worshipping, just one God, just like Christianity. After he died though, they got “rid” of his Religion and went back to the old one, where they worshipped several.

Although Nefertiti and Akhenaten governed over Ancient Egypt at a time of unprecedented wealth, their new religion unsettled the empire. … However, she was also largely hated because of her active leadership in Akhenaten’s sun-oriented religion

It’s just interesting to me within one Religion how many times they all change.

Mental Health Check List

Do any of you have a mental health checklist? I mean when you’re both in the middle of a mental health crisis, and then afterwards? Maybe you found something different to help this time?

When I’m in the middle of a attack. There are couple of things I do.

In the middle of a attack

  • Sing a song in my head. I usually end up singing one sentence from a song.
  • I feel for any of my plushies. Usually they’re just on the floor within reach.
  • I might look for my bag, in the dark. Just to know it’s there.
  • I usually sit up and try to remember to breath.
  • If that all fails, I get my phone and I use my breathing app and I just stare at that app, haha

Learned behaviours to stay in control

  • I’ve been getting better with this, but I always go to the toilet before I leave anywhere. This has been getting better though, which is a relief.
  • Make sure things like my phone and ipod are charged.
  • I have all sorts of natural drugs in my bag, that help relax. I haven’t had used any in ages! Which is also a good thing, but is it because I know they’re there?
  • I actually do think about how I’m feeling before I go onto Twitter, FB, Insta.

Young Divas

It’s my own fault really.

So, before the Easter long weekend my mum and I were talking about our favourite chocolates that we expected to get over the weekend. We have a local national chocolate company, that my mum and myself buy each other for Easter. Making sure we both get at least eggs we both like. Well, my mum got me pjs, that are cute, but not Haighs eggs, lol. I told her my least favourite chocolates are Lindt…Guess what I got all weekend, lol.

Luckily, my partner got me Subway cookies, I got him a doughnut and bought myself Haighs eggs, haha.

Even though it’s already out there, I am going to say next Easter. I really hate Haigh’s chocolate. Knowing full well, whatever is out there, already knows the truth, haha.

After all the real meaning of Easter is family, rebirth, death, chocolate, bunnies, food (haha).

Thursday Theories – TERFs and their VERY low standards

*VERY long post incoming*

So I am sure by now you have heard of the Women’s March and the vigil’s for Sarah Everard.

WELL…Again TERFs and Gender Criticals are making it all about them…AGAIN. I actually couldn’t believe that I had to argue with a group of grown ups. Who complained that because of a sign saying that TERFS were not welcomed, they left! They were scared off by ONE sign. They couldn’t put the prejudices aside for the violent way a young woman died, at the hands of the police, because of a sign. Not only did they leave because of the sign, but the way they BRAGGED about it too! Like, they were proud that they were scared of by ONE sign.

Then “Reclaim the Streets” was “rude” to a TERF, as they were demanding to know that RTS weren’t giving their money to men ie transwomen, and two weeks later they’re STILL going on about how “rude” they are. Not one person complaining has Sarah Everard mentioned anywhere on their profile.

Watching two women being called “brave” because they’re talking together on Spotify, about how much they hate trans people and they’re just protecting the “rights” of children, by not speaking to a single person who is trans, or even a actual health professional. Is a REALLY low standard to have when it comes to “bravery”. I wonder if they would call two men talking about women to “protect their rights” with no women or a single health professional for women there “brave”. Nope. So what’s the difference? Where, in their world is talking about people who are not even there “brave” in their world? I reported that podcast. Whether or not anything will happen, I don’t know.

Imagine having a go at a small company, because they post a picture of a diary with drawn bums and different underwear on those bums. Calling it not feminist, when it actually subtly is. Then calling me pathetic, when I make a joke about how they’re just jelly they’re bum doesn’t look as good, lol. Then of course they started with the whole misogyny thing, when I pointed out they’re getting upset over a pencil drawing of bums with underwear, and calling me pathetic for a joke. They seem upset. Then they said I was going on about it, as I had to point out. They were the ones who chose to bring it to everyone’s attention. You’re calling a joke pathetic. And when I say to actually LOOK at the drawing, instead of reacting, LOOK AT IT. I’m a misogynists’ -.- They blocked me, lol.

You know it’s just a funny thing to me, that these “women” compare themselves to the same struggles that suffragettes and “witches” faced. So much not are TERFs nearly ANYWHERE near that level that “witches” and suffragettes faced. Even the racists suffragettes.

Now, I come to the Queen of the TERFs. I don’t know how much of you have seen her tweets. That are completely transphobic, but I’ve only just begun to realise how they show how little of a self esteem Rowling has to has. Not only are her tweets and “report” transphobic. There’s one sentence in one tweet, that should be a clue to everyone how she actually views women and herself.

“Dress how you want….Have sex with whoever will have you”

Do NOT HAVE SEX WITH WHO’LL EVER HAVE YOU. How much more lower standards can you get than that? I can’t begin to tell you, how much not to do this. The only person who wins out of that is person who you had sex with. YOU WILL HATE YOURSELF. Which might explain as well quiet a few things about Rowling herself.

HAVE SOME STANDARDS WOMAN! For women and men EVERYWHERE…Have some set standards for yourself and stick to it. Also though having standards for yourself, will also help to stop yourself … I don’t know … If you want to fight for women and girls, if you want to really help us. You wont be scared off by a sign. You wouldn’t tell women to sleep with whoever. You wouldn’t block women asking how the money you’re grabbing from women during a global pandemic is for “sex based rights” when you’re court case is because someone said something “mean” about you.

Okay, I guess this isn’t really a “theory” so much as a fact. I’m “starting” to suspect that these women don’t actually care about women, and just want to hate trans women more.

Why I hate TERFs & GCs. I’m a cis white straight woman. Comes with a LOT of privilege even though I’ve been the victim of violence. TERFs are so engrossed in their HATRED of trans people, who’ve never harmed them. They IGNORE the voices of Brittany Higgins, Patsy Stevenson, Who ARE out there, right now. Trying to stop violence against women, and not on Twitter complaining how “gross” the trans community is. They disrespect the deaths of #DanaMartin #NaomiHersi #MheldoyBruno #stopviolenceagainstwomen

Interesting little tidbit. Since I’ve been a trans ally on Twitter, I have been more abused by women and men, more than I have in the entirety of my life.

I don’t know how to explain it to you…

I feel like I’ve been saying this a lot lately. Always because someone is doing that whole “JUST” justification. I said to my therapist recently, that I’m not depressed, just that everyone keeps pissing me off. We both laughed. I asked her though, if that was normal. She thinks it is.

Too explain what I mean, I’ll write a couple of personal examples below:

We’re still being asked what was so transphobic about what Rowling said/wrote. Now for myself, personally, if after nearly two years you are still asking that question. It means one of two things. You either haven’t read it and just jumped on the bandwagon, or you have, by now someone else would have already explained it to you, and you know perfectly well why it is. You just don’t care.

Another one was this girl told us that she had a miscarriage in a public toilet. Which is obviously bad enough, but then she’s using it as a reason to ban trans people from using the bathroom. As the conversation from her side got worse and worse, we have the other side, telling us we were the bad’s ones for nothing having no empathy for her miscarriage. If I have to explain to grown adults, why using something private and heavy to harm others, is still wrong. I don’t know how to explain that.

If we’re going to talk about facts, and you present me with “The Guardian” or “Fox News”, but I’ve got a Scientific Journal, I shouldn’t have to explain to you why I’m not going to listen to your sources, haha

Anyone else, at the same point?

That sad moment

Well March has been a bit of a doozy for myself, with regards to losing respect for a few people. I have been really shocked by a few people this month. Mainly over the whole Royal situation, just because either they did “Piers Morgan…I don’t believe her suicidal thoughts” or the classic white person “She’s just being sensitive, I got bullied about my funny teeth”.

I was really saddened to read the comments, by people who I thought “Got It”. All white by the way. While I’m not saying that makes them racist, they are still a little close-minded to the fact of being a POC woman, or just a POC. They tend to get it a little rougher than getting bullied for having funny teeth or glasses, and I am sad that they can’t seem to acknowledge that.

George Floyd

Ahmaud Arbery

Breonna Taylor

Michelle Obama (even if she was a trans person, she’s still a better person that every single one who thinks calling her man is a “got you”)

I think it’s all part of my funk at the moment, just the continual disappoint of people who I thought were “better” than they’re turning out to be.

Stop! Before you post.

I’ve noticed that over my time, that a lot of people, mainly on the social media platform. When they respond with something that either makes no sense, or a gif that also makes no sense. Especially people who are bigots, and usual respond with a reaction or emotion, rather than thinking about what they’re posting.

A lot of the times when I’ve asked someone “Have you actually read the post” that you’re responding too. I usually get some kind of gif. Like a “face palm” or “lord help me with this one”. My reaction is always, well you could have just said “No”, that isn’t a actual response. If you actually have a problem with someone’s post, then you SHOULD be able to point out your problem with it. If you can’t, then what’s your problem?

I am completely guilty of doing this as well. The only difference between myself and them, when I’m reacting emotionally. It’s not because I am trying to harm a group of people. It’s usually because a group of people are using something horrific to harm other people.

There are all sorts of types of responding, but if you’re responding to harm someone or something. Not because that person or persons are bad people, but because of a irrational fear of them that YOU have. STOP before you post to them or about them.

I feel like social media platforms have given us such a ego, that certain people think it’s okay to harm others with no consequence. When you look at people like Trump, like Farage, like Morrison, like any journalist who doesn’t like being called out on social media. They just continue to say things, either without thinking about it first. Or, in the case of Farage saying something stupid, that he knows perfectly well, has nothing to do with BLM. Like, you’re not going to get the consequences.

They’re very rarely JUST talking about religion, they’re very rarely JUST talking about gay rights, they’re very rarely JUST talking about biology. There’s always some kind of bigotry behind what they’re JUST talking about.

I was inspired to write this post, after a “grown up” woman, decided to write about her miscarriage, but then used that as a excuse to keep trans people out of public toilets. At first we felt bad, but did tell her that she needs to stop using a horrific and private event to harm others. As she went on, she got worse saying really dumb things like how women should consider having miscarriages in public toilets, if it’ll help stop trans people using the toilet. Yet, we the “trans lobby” were the ones lacking in empathy, because we were pointing out everything wrong with what she was saying. I ended up posting this link.

I left at when she said “It’d be a shame if I got banned, I’m just talking about my miscarriage” and has I had to point out to her “You’re not JUST talking about miscarriages though, are you”.

World Story-Telling Day

World Storytelling Day is a global celebration of the art of oral storytelling. It is celebrated every year on the March equinox, on (or near) March 20. On World Storytelling Day, as many people as possible tell and listen to stories in as many languages and at as many places as possible, during the same day and night. Participants tell each other about their events in order to share stories and inspiration, to learn from each other and create international contacts.

Please feel free to read anything. I think that the world needs to read again.

The Theme for this year is: 2021 – New Beginnings … Isn’t that lovely!

Do you have a favourite story? I have so many! I would say the list would be shorter ones I didn’t love, but that would be lie. I don’t think I’ve probably even read HALF the stories in the world!

I would love to hear about new stories and authors you may have read already this year ❤