I’ve been thinking…

I’ve been thinking a lot this week, about this and that.

Something needs to be done.

Today I went kind of shoe shopping with my mum. She starts a new job on Monday…Well it’s actually her old job, but she was treated so badly at her new one, she asked for old one back. But either way she needs new shoes. She said we can talk wedding stuff, which I was generally fine with. We didn’t even get to the shops, before she made a judgement about the dress…That she has no idea what it is, the colouring, the style, nothing. I don’t even 100% really know yet.

I had made a joke about the dress, because my brothers making it. I started off with a simple nice dress, but there was this other one I liked better. I just didn’t want to stress him out. When I mentioned he said that it’d be easy to make. So I told her this, and her only reaction was … “But will it suit you”.

Again, neither my brother or I are 100% on the style, we’re still discussing it. I refuse to tell anything more than the colour theme, and even that was a issue. “Oh, but will the bouquet go with the dress”. Again, she knows nothing. Oh, she showed me a video about how I should do my hair. It was horrible, it was SO cutesy and ick.

The whole day was like this. I haven’t really told anyone anything about my plans, because of this. When I make a joke, there’s a judgement.

AND THEN…Oh, it gets better.

My Dad sends me HIS rules.

I’m just like “You all need to stop, right now” I am not having this for another 10 months.

So people I am writing a strongly worded email, lol.

I am nearly 40 years old, I just want to have fun.

Oh, people it just KEPT going ALL day.

I just wanted to have fun with this.

Like, I’m doing stuff by myself, because I know what’s going too happen. I even made a joke about wearing white crocs, and my mum goes “No, no daughter of mine will crocs on her wedding day”. What are you going to do? Throw me out of my own wedding.

I swear, these people don’t know who I am at all.

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What would you do?

A couple of weeks ago, I wrote a little post about George Pell. A now dead…Archbishop? Who protected pedophiles within his Churches.

No state is having a state funeral, but NSW is having like a general cemetery. Which too me is fine. I have no respect or love for the man, but you know…big figure…dead.

The police though, have been in a legal battle with people who want to protest at his funeral. Which I am fine also with. I think people should be able to protest at his funeral.

That “man” harmed and help to harm children. I have a saying “If you want to be respected in death, be respectful in life. On some level I understand the police’s wariness. It will be a really emotional place to be. Let’s be honest here though. If the “people” attending his funeral didn’t want protestors, why didn’t they hold him to accountability?

I am sure that I don’t speak for all child abuse survivors. But a little accountability, would have a gone long way.

What do you think?

It also explains why none of the states wanted to do a state funeral. This is honestly the first time I think I’ve heard of people wanting to protest at a funeral.

So tired

I was going to write this as a theory, but it’s not a theory, it’s a fact.

Oh you will make #History, just on the wrong side of it #WomenWontWeesht Karen. “Space” Karen here likes to block women and likes the posts of white males who ask complete strangers what they name their body parts. #protectwomenfromKarens

I am so TIRED. I will keep fighting for trans rights. But I am SO tired, of seeing these utter LOSERS have to admit over and over again, that they’re wrong. They #lose over and over again, and yet they *think* they speak for women. I wish they would #wheest

“Sex Matters” are a big anti-trans “company” that regularly get to be heard at important discussions, like the GRR/GRC in Scotland. See, not the first time that they’ve had to admit they’re wrong either. But, they’ll keep being heard over trans supportive women, and trans people, about trans people situations. Even though they are regularly wrong and admit so.

I am not even kidding how many MORE times, do we just have to sit back and let these bigots talk over us?

100% Absolutely Agree

Just for reference, when talking about Sam Smith, please use they/them pronouns. Once you start using they/them pronouns, I’ve found anyway, that when you start to use them regularly, they actually become quiet easier.

I have seen some vile comments about Sam Smith. The biggest irony has been, of course, the denial of course that it has anything to do with someone sexuality. When it clearly is their issue. But how many people complaining about Sam Smith, have, in fact dressed way more “scandalous” than they have. One old lady, was complaining about them, and everyone showed her “get up” at the…get this…ROCKY HORROR PICTURE SHOW!

And they were NOT dressed as Janice.

I always was like “Yeah, Sam Smith is alright” but now I am like…” I’M NOT WORTHY, I’M NOT WORTHY”

Invasion Day

Today I would like to #acknowledge that I am on #Kaurna Land If you would like to know, please check out this:

Map of Indigenous Australia

Some call today “Australia Day”, and some call it “Invasion Day”. I also call it, Invasion Day. Observed annually on 26 January, it marks the 1788 landing of the First Fleet at Sydney Cove and raising of the Union Flag by Arthur Phillip following days of exploration of Port Jackson in New South Wales.

Basically, when the white people came over to wipe the Aboriginal people.

Did anyone else know this?

King Charles Coronation is going to be going on for … THREE DAYS!

THREE DAYS!

I was miffed enough when I thought it was one day…BUT THREE!?!

#AbolishtheMonarchy.

For what?! The UK is one of the worst states it’s ever been in, they wont support the Nurses, Teachers etc but their “Ministers” are managing to find millions for themselves. There … what is it … “Upgrade” programme, seems to be benefitting where the Tory ministers come from.

I get the money that the Monarchy bring in, but really??? 3 days of it? Who does he think he is, Queen Elizabeth dead?!

“Levelling Up Fund! That’s it.

Slap in the face’: Tory seats gain more from £4bn levelling up fund, finds analysis

Safe Keeping

With the “rise” of transphobia in a lot of places. So has the rise of parents not understanding why children have safety nets and places in the first place.

Mainly because of parents like them.

*WARNING – CHILD ABUSE*

Who abuses children?

AIFS – Australian Institute of Family Studies

https://aifs.gov.au/resources/policy-and-practice-papers/who-abuses-children

Conclusion

It is clear that with the exception of child sexual abuse, most abuse and neglect is perpetrated by parents and/or caregivers. This is relatively predictable given that children spend most of their time with parents and are reliant on them for care, nurture, and protection. However, research on perpetrators of child abuse and neglect is limited in Australia. To develop a better understanding of those who abuse children a large-scale prevalence study would be required.

It is interesting to note that in the case of sexual abuse, this is what was found.

Findings from the ABS Personal Safety Survey (2005) indicated that for participants who had experienced sexual abuse before the age of 15, only 13.5% identified that the abuse came from their father/stepfather, 30.2% was perpetrated by other male relative, 16.9% by family friend, 15.6% by acquaintance/neighbour, and 15.3% by other known person (ABS, 2005).

So a large percentage is still by someone they know. The other male relative mat not be a “care giver”, but it’s still someone they know.

Oh, before anyone says it. I am well aware that it’s mostly males who are the perpetrators. They do mention females in there as well.

Here’s the things, the reason why I’m writing this really.

If your child does not trust you enough, how is that anyone else’s fault, but your own? Parents who do not understand this concept, or understand why children are their own little human bean, you shouldn’t be a parent. The reason why children get to have so much privacy and safety, is because, unfortunately, parents (or someone they know) are more likely to harm them.

Trans and gay kids aren’t being kicked out of home, by someone they don’t know.

We’re not your therapist

In the wake of the terrible UK Fascism move.

Anyone who has been abused, raped, assaulted. It’s likely by someone we know, stranger attacks are rarer. If you have had this happen and you can’t be around trans people or masculine women. #Women aren’t your therapists. If YOU have a problem, seek help. Don’t use us to harm others.

I am not going to hold your hands and tell you it’s okay to hate on trans people, because YOU have a phobia. Get therapy.

I cannot believe what is happening in the UK right, over a minor Bill that EVERY party in Scotland voted for.

The GRR is for trans people, and I am assuming intersex people as well. Too change their gender/sex on personal documents, like birth certificates, passports. It has NOTHING whatsoever to do with “spaces”. Trans people can already use the bathroom of their gender, for over a decade (I believe).

Scotland is not the first country to have a GRR and it is not the only country to recognise this. Only last week, the Tories were going to essentially “trans ban” countries that did included Australia

UK review of gender recognition list risks ‘trans travel ban’

Why do cis women deserve more protections than any other vulnerable person? We’re not Gods, we’re not therapists, we’re not delicate little flowers and I refuse to be treated as such. If you have a problem with trans people, you seek help.

WordPress Prompt

What is your spirit animal?

Oh, the Lioness.

I so needed to be reminded of this!

I am not a religious person, but I am spiritual one. I prefer Buddhism and Hinduism over Christianity. I’ve gone to a few Buddhists talks and watched created some magical sand art. BUT, I would never to “subscribe” to one religion, I need my space, lol. I don’t like boxes, lol

I guess to have a spirit animal, you can’t always explain it exactly why that it is. It just is. I guess its why does someone believe in whatever they do, you can’t always explain it. On a base level, I have total respect for Lions in general. Lionesses though, just kind of get on with it. They are great mothers. Quiet frankly whenever I deal with a truly awful “person”, if you could see what’s in my head. When I see bigots try to harm youth.

On a more spirit level. As I wrote above, you can’t always explain it.

They’re just always kind of “there”. When I first learnt about meditation, tarot reading. We learnt to go to a “space”. Mine was a African Savannah, with a Lion, Lionesses. Sometimes a lion cub, sometimes just one, two or all three of them.