Heritage

39. Your Heritage 

I AM SO BORING! I’m white and I am mostly English, first generation Australian but my great great grandparents on my Grandmother/mothers side are Irish…On the surface my Heritage is probably what people would call a “basic b*@ch”.

Then we have to ask ourselves, what is Heritage? Is it skin based, is it where you are born, is it traditions set by your family…or is it all of the above? My family on both sides have had amazing people that you will have never have heard of, but make me feel extremely proud.

Even when things were “proper” in England my family never really did follow the rules. Take my Mothers Grand mother (who I wish I had met). Lost part of her leg to polio, never stopped her. She had the operation and a week later she was hopping everywhere. My mum said that she was constantly falling over, but it didn’t bother her. She was gentle and kind, but made of ‘tough stuff’. Her oldest son was born out of wedlock (there was a rumour it was the preacher’s son) and she claimed him as her own, something completely unheard of at the time.

My Great Grandfather (who I wish was still around) was just so wise, although had an Irishman’s temper, but not with me and not with my Mum…We’re special *nods head* We found this notebook full of all of his thoughts and I would love to share them with you all. However I feel like I need to ask permission to see if I can share them. I have wanted to Greece and visit the ancient sites and we recently found a notebook with all his thoughts and he was writing about visiting Greece. Visiting the ancient sites. It’s amazing, even from beyond how he still influences me.

Then there was a Great Uncle of my Grandmother…He was found murdered and dressed in a dress, which apparently he used to do a lot (Is my brother a reincarnation?)

At a time when people didn’t do the things they weren’t supposed to be doing my family were doing, they were doing them. I like to carry that around with me. A lot of people from my family were very far ahead of their times.

Music is the very nature of our souls…Or something…

38. Your favourite music

I am definitely one of those annoying people who pretty much likes all the music…

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Except for heavy death screaming metal…

What I love the most about music is that it can change your mood, you can switch yourself out of a mood or keep staying in a mood, just based on the music you listen too. I am sure that you have people out there who probably don’t even like music. For me though there have been times in my life where I feel like music as literally saved my life and has stopped me from making terrible mistakes.

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Something you’ve created

37. Something you’ve created

I’ve been trying to think of something that I’ve created and it’s been really hard to think of something. Whether it’s been physically made something or emotionally/mentally. I didn’t really want to ask anyone either what they thought.

I guess the closest I can say about something that I have created is positivity. I remember a couple of people in my life have said to me that I can see the positive on a lot of topics. Even when a situation in completely negative, I can see the good in the situation.

People are always saying to me that when I’m mad or upset, people should listen because there is clearly something wrong. The ironic thing about that is the first person who ever said that too me was also someone who ended up being one of the worst bullies that I have ever encountered. However, it has been said time and time again. There was also another incident, a natural disaster and people were criticising those who kept saying “Pray for … so and so”. I just pointed that sometimes that’s all people can do. They can’t afford to spend even a dollar for others. A lot of people live pay check to check, so it’s all you can do. As long as you’re trying, sometimes that’s literally all people can do.

One of my friends actually said to me that it made her really think because she’s never thought of it that way before. She’s criticising people who may genuinely not be able to do anything but Pray. How bad would she feel if someone felt so bad that they weren’t able to do anything that gave money or items that they can’t actually afford and then put themselves in a vulnerable position?

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36. Your Home

36. Your Home…

This is one of those occasions where timing is amazing!lol

*long post*

I live in two different houses at the moment because my Mum and my partners houses are in two different areas, but because they are both close to where my two different work places are. I’ve been spending half a week at one house and the rest of the week at the other house. It’s been good though, I still get to see my mum, my dog and my partner and his cat and feel like I’m spending time with everybody. I can also say that I feel safe at both and that is the best feeling ever!

The other thing that’s happening though is my creepy cousin (I’ll be writing about that one later) He turned up to my Mums house. Now before I say what happened, this is the situation. My cousin is MY blood cousin, he’s my Dads nephew. When my parents split my Dads sister, her husband and my creepy cousin all took my Mum’s side. The problem is my cousin has always had a crush on my Mum, and it is not subtle either. For some reason though she always hangs out with him, they are close in age, but it’s still weird to me. The other thing I’ll mention is that they live (he’s 51, he’s just become retired, and still lives at home with his mum and dad) about 10 minutes away.

Last weekend he turns up too my Mums house, bangs on her door. She said that really loud banging and so she runs to the front door, she was drying her hair at the time. Opens the door and he starts accusing her having someone in the house. He saw someone guy in a suit come up and knock on her door and when he drove around, the guy in the suit was gone.

  • Mum never heard anyone else knock on the door,
  • There was no other man in the house.
  • Who WAS the strange man in the suit?
  • Not that any of that is his business

Since then she’s been really shaken up by what he did. The surprising thing is he apologised NOT for clearly stalking her, banging on her door and scaring the jabber out of her because he’s just being “protective”. He apologised for accusing her of having someone in the house, when she didn’t. They are not dating, my mother is not interested in him.

It’s sad because now she doesn’t feel safe in her own home and she gets angry at herself, because she was so shocked that she felt like she had to justify to him, instead of telling him off. Now she doesn’t feel safe in her own home. Even after this, he still doesn’t get it and he actually invited himself over to watch a football game, that my Mum has never been interested in. She did say no that though. So FINALLY she is actually going to have a word with his mother…Like a 13 year old kid *rolls eyes*

I have to say I don’t feel comfortable either anymore. Even though I know that it’s her his interested in. My Mum goes out dancing every Tuesday evening and I stay and look after our dog, especially mainly because I’m working there at the time. I went to the bathroom and I started to freak out, what if he doesn’t believe that she’s out dancing, what if he just sits there, waiting for her to come back?

A home should always make you feel safe. You should be able to sit inside, go to the bathroom and feel like you are finally out of the rat race and all the drama, and that no one is peering in on you.

I am grateful for my homes, I feel safe and loved…It’s just a shame someone dumb has decided to disturb the peace…GET A LIFE!!!

 

In the neighbourhood

35. Your Neighbourhood

I really love my neighbourhood, it’s probably one the best neighbourhoods that I’ve ever lived in. I love it because it’s in the middle of three major roads and yet, you’d think it was in the middle of the suburbs. I live about 10 minutes away from our major city and yet, you’d never know it. It almost feels like a little English country town street.

Whenever we have new people come over or even the taxi drivers who drop us off at home, always comments on gorgeous the street is.

We also have a lot of places when you go for walks and take your dogs for a walk in the park and during the mornings and sometimes as evening descends on us, you can hear the birds singing in the trees. A 5 minute walk you can go to two parks, a supermarket and a bus to the city.

I feel very cosy in our neighbourhood, it feels kind of cut off from the busy world. As I mentioned above, we live in between three major roads, where they are doing major roadworks at the moment to join onto a freeway. Yet, I very rarely hear any of them. Even though it feels cut off, you can hop onto a bus and within 15 minutes you are in the city/downtown/CBD.

Even the neighbours around here actually talk to each other and say Hi. There’s two in particular who live across the road from one another and both have fought cancer. I see them regularly going over to each others houses. Which is not only nice but I bet is also comforting to each other.

When Autumn hit the street is SO beautiful. We have those gorgeous trees whose leaves tell yellow and orange and hit the ground, I love walking through them.

Things you like about Fall/Spring

34. Things you like about Fall/Spring

There are so MANY things that I love about Fall and Spring, I’m a big fan of Spring the most though, It is definitely my favourite season of the whole year. Even though nothing “special” is in it…Spring is a special three months all on it’s own!

I love Spring, it means that Winter is finally over and yet, it’s not too hot at the moment like it is in the Summer. It’s just feels perfect, you can stay outside without either freezing or sweltering. You can swear skirts and dresses without over heating and at the same time not freezing either. I always love the first day of Spring, when it really feels like Spring. Every time I really feel like that first day of Spring the only song that comes on in my head “Here comes the sun” by George Harrison. It will play over and over again in my head and it is GLORIOUS!!!

I still call Australia home…

32. A city you’ve visited

I guess I would have to talk about Arizona in the United States of America. A few years ago I went there for a few months a time every few months….I would work my butt off in Australia for a few months and then stay in Arizona for a few months.  I was actually dating someone from Arizona and then of course, it just never seemed to work out.

I am grateful for it for a few various reasons. It was the bravest thing I had ever done. Everyone was shocked that I went over there, including myself. I never seemed the type to go over and potentially get stood up in a “foreign” country. Which actually nearly happened, because he went to the area.

Also though it made me brave for so many different reasons. I travelled by myself and I do get airsick. I had to learn to do a lot by myself. Travelling to America taught me how to really cook, rather than just heat things up. Walking around by myself, my partner at the time worked retail at Walmart and it was about 10-15 minute walk. I used to walk around and buy grocery shopping, I learnt a lot to do by myself.

The Core Value

31. Core Value

My core value…This one has been such an interesting one to think/write about, because I think that I have a few different types on core values depending on the situation.

The one that I think I think is most true to my core value though is to just be kind. I have done so many tests about your personality where they ask about what do you value most. They are usually something like Kindness, Honesty, Humour, and something else, but I always chose kindness. I feel with kindness comes all those kinds of responsibility. Generally I find that if you are just kind to others, the other values just kind of come naturally.

By kindness to me that incorporates everything from physically helping others to just sitting and listening to someone. Even when they are saying something that you don’t necessarily agree with, but they seem to need to get off their chest. Sometimes the reward that comes with that as well is to finally understand why someone thinks that way they do.

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I’m old!lol

30. Your Current Age

A true Lady never reveals her age!

I can say though that I somewhere in-between 32-34 years old ~.^

There is a lot to be grateful for at this age. I feel like myself and others around my age, we’re at that age when we are starting to realise that being “Us” is hey okay. We still have insecurities and I don’t think that’s really going go away, but they don’t tend to plague most of us. Sure there will always be those people who just have issues all the time. I think though being older and wiser you learn to have better coping skills, most of the time.

I think you start to learn that not being the best friend of everyone is alright. Not going to every single club is alright. Having complete weekends in and not seeing another human being the whole weekend, is really quiet satisfying. That as long as you’re a good person and you are doing the best you can, that’s alright. It’s okay to not have everything perfectly set yet either. You’re still young enough to…How can I term this…Make life changing decisions, but also old enough to be content if this is what you want for your life. Whether that is making huge decisions or just living to day to day.

I’m not a parent so I would assume that’s a different kind of life all together, and I can’t really make comments about that.

 

 

 

Memories…All alone with my memory

29. Your favourite memory

Wow! This was so hard to break this down to one, I have a lot of “favourite time” memories. From significant things to when I got some great retail therapy deals!

Which then got me thinking and then I started feeling grateful, just because I have so many favourite memories  and that is definitely something to be grateful for. I feel like I have a lot more favourite memories than unhappy ones, I have been very lucky. That is something bee extremely grateful for. The good outweighs the bad.

The good and bad memories both remind me of how far I have and remind me of how I overcome things in the past and who overcome them with me. Even the bad ones have ended up good!