I don’t know if men experience this too, but I am sure the ladies know what I’m talking about.

There’s always that one person, usually one of the opposite sex, who every single time you sign onto a social media platform, that also had DM’s or you can privately chat.

They’re there “Where are you” “What are you up too” “Can we chat” “Why wont you chat with me”.

It is REALLY annoying! And also really puts me off wanting to go on, which I guess, isn’t totally bad.

People, we don’t have to chat to these … I don’t know what to call them … Obligations

You should never ever be obligated in a friendship to chat just whenever they want. You are under no obligation to chat with someone when you don’t want to. I actually was a little shocked the other day when I post a message to someone, something that I thought they’d like. And they did say “thank you” But then ended it with “I thought you had forgotten about me”.

Like, come on. If you want to chat, see that message I sent you? You send one back through that. Communication is a two way street.

Posting a post on FB, Twitter, Insta … doesn’t automatically = I want a chat. If you want one though, ask.


3 thoughts on “Obligations

  1. Reblogged this on Notes and commented:
    Before virtually or in person saying hi, I ask myself these few things;

    1. Do I like their face? I’m a sucker for beauty and since beauty lies in the eyes of a beholder, hence nobody’s definition of beauty essentially matches mine.

    2. Beyond face, their physical appearance, dress, fragrance (perfume or not, they should smell good including their mouth/teeth) and how confident they walk, sit or move about.

    3. And lastly, their intelligence. Beyond being beautiful, you have to be smart. A beauty with a dumb brain is such a pity that I sometimes scold the nature screaming why did not it insert a beautiful brain too in her head?

    After having passed through all of those 3 basic criteria of mine, if one is not socially experienced to connect with me, I give them a margin of error and am usually lax with them, sort of encouraging and guiding them towards me, without coming off as being full of myself.

    People are different and unique. I always allow them to be themselves, giving them enough space to play until I have had enough, of course.

    Interesting post btw! ๐Ÿ˜œ๐ŸŒน

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