With any relationship in life (whether that be romantic, friendly and family) sometimes the worse situations we go through with them, are the lessons in life that are the hardest to learn.
Throughout my life (and I am sure others as well) I have learnt the most about myself and others, through my worse situations. Over the years this has meant that I have learnt every single time from it.
It’s been coming up a lot about how I’ve been since I lost my “friends”…I was worried myself for a bit there because I was really happy to be honest,lol…Maybe I am this terrible human being…Then I started to realise, no, it’s because life before this has taught me so much and when I started to realise how little they brought to my life…because it’s was always about them…Not anybody else…That’s when I forgave myself for not being sadder.
It was interesting because my partner said to me that if they came back on their hands and knees begging for my forgiveness and I said “No…I’ve already forgiven them, but I will never be friends with any of those three ever again”.
I had a situation a few years ago where these two girls were constantly cyber bullying me and it got to the point where I deactivated my account. I then made a new Myspace (that’s how old this story is!) and I did not put these girls back…for more than obvious reasons and I lost a LOT of “friends” because of that. I was competently gobsmacked by that, but it also proved who truly did care and who never did. All those who had unfriended me never had a conversation with me before they did it. It became very apparent to me that these people clearly put certain parts of their anatomy over actual friendships.
The funniest part I found about that situation is that over the years they’ve stopped speaking with each other, but then came back together and stopped speaking again,lol…Then one of them sent me a friends request on Facebook, no message, nothing, no apology…So I declined,lol
The biggest reason I don’t miss them is because they never brought ANYTHING to my life, it was always about them! You can’t miss what was never there!