I have usually gotten along better with guys than I do with girls. I don’t know if it’s less drama or they are appear more laid-back, but I had always gotten along better with guys…Until the last few years, where mainly the word S…E…X has gotten in the way, mainly theirs, lol…
I don’t know how, but I’ve been in the situation twice now, where I come along in a new group and think that I have made some new friends and they seem like a lot of fun. Then over the next couple of years, someone else has come along…You know more “exciting” than me, younger than me…I mean I think I look pretty good for 33. However, that’s when things change. I’m suddenly sitting at my birthday all alone, that was pretty horrible…Of course the girls don’t like me, one I have never met, the other I’ve never really hang out with. So over time you just lose “friends” and you don’t even know why…Other than they’re all a bunch of idiots.
The first girl I fought back against, because she was attacking me for no reason. Everything I said, everything I did was “wrong” and a reason to send me 4 page emails about how wrong I was. I’d wake up the next day and another “friend” would be gone. It was probably the most emotionally and mentally draining thing that has ever happened too me.
So, when it started happening again, I didn’t fight, I just walked away and it was probably the best thing that I have ever done for myself. No months of drama or how wrong I was, and I still lost friends and people still walked away.
It has been different this time…
People came back and I got unfriended by people who honestly, I don’t actually like that much too be honest. I stopped getting invited to their parties, but I had better ones to go to and had even better people to spend time with. I had more time to explore and discover where I live instead of going to the same parties, with the same people and the same dramas.
Do I wish that either party would apologise? Of course…The best advice I can give though, if you are in this situation, or something similar…Walk Away…
This applies to every single relationship in your life. Any relationship or any type of relationship, just walk away. There is a reason that this saying is a cliche…
If You Love Someone, Set Them Free. If They Come Back They’re Yours
It’s a true cliche, set them free, if they come back, they were always meant to be apart of your life. If they don’t, they just were not. It really is true and sometimes it can hurt and it can be frustrating because you can’t understand why. I’ve been there so many times “Why, what’s wrong with me?”. There is nothing wrong with you, as my Gran likes to say “They are just not part of your tribe”. It’s true…Most of the people I’ve lost during these situations, there are soooooooo boring, or annoying and they do the same dramas all the time. They just did not “interest” me, I guess you could say. I have never actually lost a really good friend.
Some of these people have come back into my life and they have seriously honestly missed me. The cliche is a cliche for a reason, even though it takes time. It might even take years. They do, the ones who matter, always do.
And just keep being you