Child or Childless…Or are you an “InBetweener”?
I am an “InBetweener”…I can see myself having children one day, but neither am I obsessing about it either. I have my Furbabies and one day will have the ‘hooman babies’ too…Maybe…
This is where my random thought lies.
One of the issues that I have being an inbetweener, you are neither accepted by the “having children” group and neither are you accepted by the “choosing not have children” group either…You are alone in an ever expanding abysmal abyss.
My main issue apart from consistently feeling unwanted is what if I can’t have children, do I get excluded forever? Not having children means currently that people think my time is not valuable, that I can just drop everything at the last moment for their children, without even being asked if I am actually able to come…And to me, there’s no respect in that. When I choose not drop everything somehow I end up being the “worst person ever”…As I was called once when I decided to go to my friends birthday, which I had been asked to come to weeks beforehand, over not going to my cousins kids 7th birthday, which I had only been told about the night before.
I do mean “told”…and not… “asked” if I can come…It is amazing an amount of difference between those two words.
At the same time, I am also constantly left out of conversations by my friends who choose not have children. Take the past Mothers Day here in Australia…One of my best friends decided to tag every single girlfriend of ours, who are not having children and not me in a post about being furbaby mama…I am one too…So why leave me out as well? I found it extremely hurtful.
So I made a post about wishing every type of Mother out there a Happy Mothers Day. That’ll show them!