Please start off by reading this article:
Stop telling me I’m ‘beautiful’. I’m ugly. It’s fine. Kristin Salaky
I read it over the weekend and it struck a chord with me, and I highly suggest you read this article. If you don’t want to, here’s the break down: Have you see the commercials by Dove Real beauty ads? They also include telling total strangers that they’re beautiful and making them smile. The author of this article is not necessarily calling herself “ugly”, she’s just saying that she’s being more realistic, and that she may not be the most beautiful person on the planet, but that shouldn’t diminish her worth either. She says and I quote
“This is why the ad campaigns that tell everyone they’re beautiful are so dangerous. They link beauty with worthiness and kindness, doing nothing for the people thrust into the world knowing that simply isn’t true.
Instead, we should teach people, especially women, that their beauty doesn’t define them. We need to teach them that their worth comes from much more than their appearance. We need to stop shopping the narrative that everyone is beautiful (or could be, if they did x, y, z). We need to lift women up to be competitive workers, voracious learners and empathetic people. No matter what they look like.”
I have to say that I agree with her. I wouldn’t call myself ugly, but I am definitely the not the prettiest person in the world. Neither do I believe that my looks are the reason I get people flirting with me. (This is why you need to read the article).
I remember once watching a television program about a murder that happened in the early 80’s and it was the 30th anniversary of a murder that “shook Australia”. I started to feel less sympathetic for the family as it went along and although it was terrible to feel like that. The reason that I felt the way I did was because the family could say nothing else but that she was beautiful…That was it, they never mentioned if she was a good or kind person, or the good work she did as a Nurse. At one point the father said “She didn’t deserve to die, she was so beautiful”…because only ugly people deserve to die?
What do you think, readers?