That greener grass

I’ve had a few interesting times over this last year, just personally I’ve felt like I’ve changed a lot and have become a lot more sure of who I am.

As a general rule when someone goes through something like a lot of things, for example your friendships. Also though women I used to really admire, use to really look up too, I have down a full 180 on them. They’re all smart, successful in their careers, stunningly beautiful, they take really good care of their health. Even though they are some of my best friends

However there is one thing that I’ve never really realised before, they can’t be alone. They are always with someone. These smart, successful, beautiful women NEED to have a men in their life to make their life “credible”.

There’s this one girl who is actually one of my ex’s, ex’s before me. She cheated on my ex with his best friend and they eventually got married. Ever since I’ve known her though, my ex was planning on asking her to marry him, had the ring, everything, but she turned him down because she was in love with his best friend. I’ve noticed though, she seems to get remarried every couple of years. Recently I noticed that she was already dating someone (via taking a picture of herself in her underwear) and her last post with her husband has only been two weeks beforehand on Facebook. Yet, no one else seems to have noticed? It’s like she’s going through so many guys no one even cares any-more.

Then there’s one of my best friends, obsessed is an understatement with her finding a guy. It’s pretty much all our conversations have been over the last two years…I am not even kidding. She’s been hypnotherapy, all sorts of things…None of it seems to work. Then she’ll meet some guy and for the next month she’ll be in total love and then he turns out to be a jerk or just doesn’t like her as much as she likes him and it’s all over again.

One of the things that fascinates me though the most is that neither of these girls wants to have children. So what’s with the desperation? You can get married at any age.

That’s beside the point though, it’s just fascinating that these two women who I used to really admire and wish that I had their life, I’m glad that I don’t have their life.

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9 thoughts on “That greener grass

  1. Maybe it’s not so much an obsession, but that they’re afraid to be alone. Even the people we look up to, the people we see as bigger than life, even they are held captive by the same emotions that afflict us all. Maybe there’s something in their pasts that makes them so scared to not be in a relationship. Or maybe they’ve been trained by something in their upbringing that tells them that in order to be “normal” they must be married or they must have a guy with them at all times.

    Or it could be as simple as an exchange of dialogue I heard on an episode of Married… With Children in which Bud’s cousin Jimmy was getting married (his second marriage) to a girl who he thought could break his heart like the previous girl did:
    Jimmy: “I don’t know if I’m just in love with being in love, or if it’s just that I’m so stupid I refuse to learn from my mistakes.”
    Bud: “Well, maybe you’re just in love with being stupid.”
    😉

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